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My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now, and we're in love. I can tell him anything, I've never felt more comfortable around anyone in my life, not my parents, sister, ex-boyfriends, or even my friends I've had since I was 5 years old. Early on in our relationship we had some problems, there was no cheating involved but I was still hurt. What happened was that when we were together for about three or four months things started to get quite serious, but then it took a turn for the worst. I found out that he was calling and staying up until 3 or 4 in the morning to chat online with this girl from our area. I know her, but we're not exactly best friends. So when I asked him about it and he realized that I was hurt he stopped contacting her so that I wouldn’t be hurt anymore. I was fine for a while but then I started to think about it a lot, probably overanalyzing it. So I asked him to be honest with me and to tell me if at any point he had feelings for her. He said at one point he thought he did, but then when he thought about it, he knew that she wasn't worth ruining our relationship over. I thought that this would make me feel better, but it didn't. I was hurt and I felt betrayed and simply not good enough. He did his best to convince me that things were okay now and that he was deeply sorry. He even went as far as not going to parties and drinking just so I would feel more comfortable. He hasn't done this for almost a year now. Things are good between us now and we now tell each other if we ever feel scared or doubt our relationship, it feels wonderful to be so open with each other, but I'm still having a problem...

Since the incident almost a year ago I feel extremely jealous of almost any girl he talks to who aren’t one of my friends. I think this could have something to do with the fact that a past boyfriend I had cheated on me 5 times and I went back with him each time. After the fifth time I promised myself that I would NEVER let someone use me like this ever again. So when that problem occurred with my current boyfriend I became very scared and uneasy. But I understood where he was coming from, he was scared of commitment, but now we understand each others wants and needs perfectly. Anyway, I am still having a hard time with the jealousy factor, it's gotten to the point where when he goes out with his friends and they're usually just hanging out playing XBOX I’ll feel scared that he's going to hurt me. Does anyone know what I could do?

P.S: I've talked to him about this, he knows I'm writing this thread and he is willing to do anything he can to help me. He told me any problem we have should be dealt with by the two of us, so any suggestions or help you have will be heard by the two of us.

Thank you everyone so much.
Megan





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