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Trust issue
Mar 10, 2007
Hi guys

I'm facing a problem I never really had to face before. That being, for the past year and nine months, I have been the sole focus in my boyfriends life. "Only has eyes for me" kinda thing. He doesn't have any female friends that aren't mutual friends to both of us through uni, and therefore I have never really had any cause to be jealous about anything.

Anyhoo, a few days ago at uni I was jolted a bit when I noticed my boyfriend wanting the attention off a pretty blonde who we've known for a year but have never really socialised with. We were sitting in class, him on my left and her on my right... I noticed that when he was speaking to me (or meant to be) his eyes were frequently bouncing to her to see if she was listening to him (which she wasn't). Then he would speak a little louder in order to get her attention. When that didn't work he would actually address her. It really unsettled me and I worry because my boyfriend has a few classes with her that he does not have with me, so I'll have little chance to see what goes on when im not around.

I approached this with my boyfriend who was hurt and angry that I didn't trust him after we've been dating so long and "he's never given me any reason to be suspicious or concerned about his faithfulness." He also apologised and said he didn't notice what he was doing but sorry it made me uncomfortable. He was pretty mad at my underlying accusation.

I don't want to be the jealous girlfriend, and I don't want to be paranoid about this girl whenever I see her. I guess if I see this kind of behaviour continue i'm going to have to address it again. But I guess my querie is... am I way out of line or would this bother anyone else?
And if it is just a serious trust issue on my part, which I need to get over... how on earth do I go about doing it as quickly as possible? :mad: :confused: :mad: :confused: :eek: :dizzy:

Cheers
Re: Trust issue
Mar 11, 2007
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I approached this with my boyfriend who was hurt and angry that I didn't trust him after we've been dating so long and "he's never given me any reason to be suspicious or concerned about his faithfulness." He also apologised and said he didn't notice what he was doing but sorry it made me uncomfortable. He was pretty mad at my underlying accusation.

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It seems to me: that you jump too fast. I ran into something like that similar. Except, I was the one that was angry at him. And "yes"--I did apologize. I only said that I was sorry because I thought it was so cute for him to be jealous.

Anyway...After he said it.....It made me think twice. I was kind of flirting or something like that. It wasn't even a big deal.......

So....I guess what I am trying to tell you is: By asking him.......it was a good thing. Maybe he was flirting or something like that. At least now, he knows that it's making you jealous....and in a way, he will probably stop with whatever it is he is doing.





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