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Well, DH & I have been together for 15 years, and his friends all tell me I should offer a seminar or something to women.

Don't nag. Men like lists (must be that visual thing?). Ask a man to do something, you'll ask 20 times. Make a list of what needs to be done by X time/date, it gets done.

Stop with the drama. No one cares about who Sarah is dating at the office, how a salesperson "looked" at you eyeing that bikini as if you shouldn't be wearing it. If phrases like, "As if," or "talk to the hand" are in your vocabulary, delete them.

Learn how to hang with the guys. Most chicks have this "either/or" attitude, either have a frou-frou dinner with me on Friday night, or go off with the guys for wings, beer and a pay-per-view boxing event at the local dive. Wings are good ... and so are pitchers of beer.

Which brings me to another point I've heard a lot of men complain about:

What women eat! Stop being so timid. If you really, genuinely want that side salad for dinner with a roll and water with lemon in it, fine. But most men I know want women with a little meat on their bones. Not obese or seriously overweight, but a woman who enjoys a steak, a burger, a lobster tail with extra butter (the lobster with extra butter I ordered is actually what sparked this convo). Women judge what other women eat; men don't. Enjoy yourselves and get the sauteeed onions on that burger!

And lastly -- and pardon my bluntness ... this is something I didn't learn until I was well into my 30s and wished I'd learned sooner with my own relationship with DH -- men like a "good girl" 99 percent of the time. That 1 percent left over I'm referring to the bedroom, where men like a wh0re. Get assertive, creative, experiment. Don't hold back. I think a lot of what defines a man's masculinity comes from the bedroom and how they're able to rock their woman's world. Just laying there with the man doing all the work and giving him tender kisses isn't going to cut it. Yeah, you might get roses the morning after the first few times, but your man is going to get bored. Want to surprise your SO/DH with a gift basket filled with beer/liquor, a stuffed animal, some boxer shorts, he'll be happy. Want to surprise your SO/DH with a basket filled with goodies from the local porn/adult toy store, he'll be drooling and falling all over himself treating you like a goddess :)

Obviously my last point I don't mean for the first date or two ;)
[QUOTE=StenoLady1;2862076]Well, DH & I have been together for 15 years, and his friends all tell me I should offer a seminar or something to women.

Don't nag. Men like lists (must be that visual thing?). Ask a man to do something, you'll ask 20 times. Make a list of what needs to be done by X time/date, it gets done.

Stop with the drama. No one cares about who Sarah is dating at the office, how a salesperson "looked" at you eyeing that bikini as if you shouldn't be wearing it. If phrases like, "As if," or "talk to the hand" are in your vocabulary, delete them.

Learn how to hang with the guys. Most chicks have this "either/or" attitude, either have a frou-frou dinner with me on Friday night, or go off with the guys for wings, beer and a pay-per-view boxing event at the local dive. Wings are good ... and so are pitchers of beer.

Which brings me to another point I've heard a lot of men complain about:

What women eat! Stop being so timid. If you really, genuinely want that side salad for dinner with a roll and water with lemon in it, fine. But most men I know want women with a little meat on their bones. Not obese or seriously overweight, but a woman who enjoys a steak, a burger, a lobster tail with extra butter (the lobster with extra butter I ordered is actually what sparked this convo). Women judge what other women eat; men don't. Enjoy yourselves and get the sauteeed onions on that burger!

And lastly -- and pardon my bluntness ... this is something I didn't learn until I was well into my 30s and wished I'd learned sooner with my own relationship with DH -- men like a "good girl" 99 percent of the time. That 1 percent left over I'm referring to the bedroom, where men like a wh0re. Get assertive, creative, experiment. Don't hold back. I think a lot of what defines a man's masculinity comes from the bedroom and how they're able to rock their woman's world. Just laying there with the man doing all the work and giving him tender kisses isn't going to cut it. Yeah, you might get roses the morning after the first few times, but your man is going to get bored. Want to surprise your SO/DH with a gift basket filled with beer/liquor, a stuffed animal, some boxer shorts, he'll be happy. Want to surprise your SO/DH with a basket filled with goodies from the local porn/adult toy store, he'll be drooling and falling all over himself treating you like a goddess :)

Obviously my last point I don't mean for the first date or two ;)[/QUOTE]

I agree with EVERYTHING she said. That's the advice I woulda given ;-)





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