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I love you but...
Mar 21, 2007
My on-off boyfriend of 6 years is working really hard at finishing up his graduate work, preparing for his first "real" job, a cross-country trip, moving, etc.

A week ago, he told me that he loved me, wanted to be with me, and was going to put forth the effort towards those things.

Two days ago, he tells me he loves me, but he doesn't know if he wants to be with me:dizzy: . Imagine how heartbroken I am, especially because we are in a long distance relationship and i was going to see him in a few days. now he has asked me not to come visit.

What should i do?
I figured in the meantime i should just focus on other things, because who knows? Why fear the worst when it has yet to happen?

But then again, I don't want to set myself up for disappointment. One day I'm thinking about sharing a life together, the next I thinking how painful it will be to move on and get over him.

Obviously, things are confusing. We're not dating. He's working like a dog around the clock so i'm just trying to be understanding and supportive of him in his schoolwork, etc.

Should I prepare for the worst? Or tell myself that he does love me, so everything is destined to work out?

I am so confused, paralyzed mentally (and somewhat physically) while my emotions are running rampant, and somewhat distraught.

Where do I go from here? How do i approach the situation?
He says he needs some time to get himself together, and get his work done, and THEN he says he;ll be better able to discern his feelings. But I wondre, if he really wanted to be with me, why would his busyness, stress level, and anxiety cloud that? How do I wait it out for an unknown period of time until he can come forth with his feelings? Should i go ahead and move on?

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