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[QUOTE=ICC;2904976]Sometimes I feel the dissatisfaction with ones accomplishments comes from wanting to share them with someone and not having a significant other. Sad but true. Shame we can't all be happy alone but we aren't. All humans crave to give and receive love and when stuck in a situation of meeting people who are cruel, masty, waste your time and just want the same thing over and over it's very frustrating. I wish all of you the best as I do my daughter in your search for fullfilling your dreams of a good healthy relationship with someone you can share your life and dreams with. I believe God is never late and it will happen when the time is right.


I think there may be some truth to this. I went through the same thing you did when my boyfriend left me, then my best friend flaked out and blew me off and cut off communications with me, then my dog died, all within the space of a couple of years, and the day after I put my dog down, my ulcer broke open and I got very sick. And it was then that my job lost all sense and satisfaction for me. Every day just seemed to stupid, everything I did just felt and seemed so stupid. So I forged a new career for myself. It was hard going, and took over four years to get back to where I was financially and to get my financial feet back under me, but I'm in a good place now. I still find myself feeling that feeling of "ugh, this is so stupid!!!" I really don't want to spend my life job hopping, so I sat down and tried to figure out why. I pretty much have my dream job, aside from the hours sometimes. I should be incredibly grateful, and I am, but I think the times when I feel restless and unhappy and like everything is stupid and pointless are the times when I realize that time is passing and my childbearing years are over and I have no one to go home to and no family and never will. Unfortunately, you can change almost anything you wnat to change about your life EXCEPT being alone. You can't make someone fall in love with you or force someone's free will. After all the work outs and dieting and smiling and clothes shopping sprees and internet dating sites and clubs and set ups, ultimately it's something that will either happen or not. At least now I know I'm happy with my work and the restlessness and discontent I feel comes from never having gotten to have sex or make love or have love or hold my babies. It's a huge hole that I will live with forever and it's hard to deal with, but I try not to let other aspects of my life suffer from it, i.e. job hopping in an attempt to fill that hole that will never be filled. Job hopping can play havoc on your financial security. It's hard to get a good, fully vested pension or 401K going, benefits, seniority, all that stuff. So before you switch jobs or careers, think long and hard and make sure it really will make a difference in the discontent and dissatisfaction you're feeling.

I think you need to shake up your life, but it doesn't necessarily mean getting a new job, though it might. Sit down and do some soul searching and figure out what you really want out of your life, and then do whatever you can think of to start making positive changes toward that end.

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