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First off id like to give u some back ground......
in january i totaled my car,i didnt have full coverge and i was under my moms policy...so i lost all the money i paid for my car which was over $5000....after that i got kicked out of my house because my mom called my girlfriend a **** and i sort of fliped out on her so she kicked me out.....about 2 weeks later my gf and i had sex for the first time( both of us had very good values on sex...and if we started to have sex it meant that we loved and cared for each other so much)....

about week later my gf went to a senior day at her high school ( senior day is when u get to go to a place to eat and go dancing with friends) well the night b4 i told her to plz dont dance with other guys(grind dancing only) and she promised me....well she txted me back saying that she danced with sum guy and they had so much fun!!! When i hear this i sort of flipped out and yelled at her i felt so betrayed that she didnt respect my wishes when....c i get hit on alot....i have above average looks and everywhere i go i get asked to either hangout or have sex with sum random girl.....well my gf gets pissed by this so i stoped going EVERYWHERE that she didnt like to show that i dont want anyone else and that i respect her wishes if it bothered her so bad.....well later that nite after she came back from senior day we hung out and she appologized and i said it was ok and i guess i could put it in the past.....

well the next day we sort of had sex again...and i thot things between us were going so great....well the next day i was waiting for a txt from her.....and nuthing...( now she basicaly txts me over 60times a day just to say hi or c how im doing) well i txt her and she says that nuthin is wrong....well the next day...the exact same thing she blows me off...and says that everything is fine....well we hung out that night and we were talking and she said that the kid she danced with asked her to prom( now we made plans over six months prior that we were goin together) and she said yes!!!!!!! i flipped out and called her a ****...well that didnt go over to whell with her and she was so mad....well the next day i try to appologise to her and she just blows me off....well i was so upset that i got into an accident with my new car and had to go to the hospital.....i was fine and the car was ok.....now that weekend i went to a club with my friends(they wanted to help cheer me up so they took me out to have sum fun) well my girlfriend show up with the kid from senior day....he has his arm around her and kisses her neck when she walks by me.....i wait a while then i go up to her and ask her to dance which she refuses.....well i got so mad and i wanted to beat the kid up....well instead of going to jail (im 19 he is 17) i just left and went home....

2days go by and i go over her house and she and i were talking for quite a while....i told her how i felt and she said that she didnt do anything with the kid(sexual) and that it was her way of showing me she was mad at me....now i kept asking her if she liked the kid and she kept saying that she liked him as JUST a friend!!! Well the next weekend...she and i are doing btr and im trying to get over wat happened the weekend prior....

we go to c a movie and then go out to eat at a fancy resteraunt....we go to a show we both wanted to c and then to another movie.....we had such a good time and i thot that we would be alrite (relationship wise)...well the next day she txts me and asks me to go c another movie...so we go and then when we were coming out of the theater i see the kid from senior day...and he has a crapload of friends with him and they were going to kick my ***....well she said plz dont start any trouble...so we just left....on the ride home i was yelling at her saying that if she ever sees that kid again that we r over....i was also so mad that he wanted to hurt me and i rly wanted to kill him...so i called up my friends and they were going to jump him..well i take my girlfriend home and go back to my house and go to sleep....

well about an hr later her mom calls me saying that the kids parents are pressing charges on me for threatening to kill him....so i spend most of my night at the police station....welll turns out all the charges were dropped and i just went home....welll the next day she breaks up with me...now im so depressed i just wanted to end my life....so i get into another car accident( on purpose) but yet again my car and myself are both alrite....well the next day i was so messed up i asked my boss for info on my insurance for sum sort of a counceler....well turns out i get 302'd ( put in a straight jacket and taken to a mental hospital in an ambulance) because i was a danger to myself aswell as to others....welll i spend over a week in the mental hospital and am basically all better.....I am so happy and i love life!!! I had very bad anger issues and they were all taken care of by counceling...

so here i am a totaly different person and i ask my ex gf if we can still b friends and hangout and she said that she wants NOTHING to do with me ever again!!! I ask her if her and the kid from senior day are bf and gf and she said NO but they kiss and stuff( nuthing else sexualy....I HOPE) So wat i am asking you Is does she rly like this kid and just dosent want to admit it...also do u think i will ever have a chance with her again....i mean she said that she never felt completley loved and happy with anyone else in her entire life...we were even going to get married.....Is there a chance? even the slightest bit of hope? Any other advice?


Well thank you!!! For your help!!!
[QUOTE=mxfreekstyle;2930408] So wat i am asking you Is does she rly like this kid and just dosent want to admit it...also do u think i will ever have a chance with her again....i mean she said that she never felt completley loved and happy with anyone else in her entire life...we were even going to get married.....Is there a chance? even the slightest bit of hope? Any other advice?[/QUOTE]

Nobody can answer whether or not your ex has feelings for this other guy. Her actions speak as though she does, but I am not inside her head and I can't tell you for sure.

As far as you having another chance with her, not gonna happen. She was very firm in telling you she wants nothing to do with you, and quite frankly, I don't know why in the world you would want ANYTHING to do with her. Look at all the drama her actions caused. She pretty much pitted this other guy against you to vie for her attention and affection. What a &itch! You deserve much better!

My advice to you would be keep up the counseling. You said it has done wonders for you so I'm sure it can also help you to get past her and get over your relationship. My other bit of advice would be to not intentionally get into car accidents. You can really hurt (or kill) yourself or someone else, then you would have nothing. Learn from that mistake and don't repeat it. I also think you should maybe go back to school or get a job you enjoy and try to better yourself in that way to. The more whole you are the more you have to offer when you are ready to offer again.

Best of luck to you! Oh, and whatever you do DON'T CALL OR TEXT YOUR EX!
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These past 2weeks have been very tough for me!!! I have been texting back and forth with my ex and i have been writing her letters,poems,and songs....i love to write and its alot easier to express my true feelings and to pour my heart out in written words than spoken words. Well she texts me telling me to just leave her alone....i keep asking her why we cant even just be friends and yet she gives me no answer...just calls me names and tells me to leave her alone for ever!!! Well one day she texts me back and tells me that she never loved me and couldnt understand why she even liked me....she said that she hates ppl like me...???!!! Im like...listen i know i have done you wrong in the past and i let anger and jealousy rule my life back then( and also this past year was the worst year of my life...just look at the beginning of this post) but i have changed and i am a better person entirely!!! She calls me many many names and says that she likes this other kid and loves spending time with hi....etc.....but what i realy dont understand is that in the beginnig of our relationship this was the EXACT same thing she said of me!!! SO what is her deal.....Whats the truth....???? Well now they are boyfriend and girlfriend over this past weekend....and it realy hurts me...knowing that they are enevitably doing sexual things.....To me it feels like she is cheating on me!!! Is there any help for my pain? I have been trying to meet other girls but every girl i have come across dosent even come close to comparing to her!!! Do you think that her telling me to just let her alone..is her way of saying that she just wants time to herself and to try new things and then MAYBEY in the future we can try to be friends? ANY IDEAS WHATSOEVER??? I NEED HELP PLEASE!!!!





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