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As I see it you are all blaming the ex-girlfriend or the old female friend, don't you think you have a problem being with a guy you can't trust. Whenever one of my boyfriends' cheated on me I blamed him. The guy has a choice to make and if the choice is to be with someone then how can you go through life thinking that he wanted someone else and you stopped him. You know it will always be in the back of his mind, a issue he never resolved. I wanted him to stay with the girlfriend or he would have never known which way to go, and I would have to live with doubt in my mind whether he is thinking about her. At some point he will throw the fact that you had him get rid of someone in his life right back in your face. It may not be now, but in a heated arguement. He should make the choice to let the friendship go as he becomes closer to you, not you demanding for him to end it.

Also, you make it to be all about the sex, that's not the problem, it the emotional attachment along with the attraction. And if it's stronger than your relationship to him, he's with the wrong person, your both being unfair to eachother and not honest about your feeling. In the long run, the relationship will run into problems. Sorry to say it again, but it's all about trust or you will live a life of insecurity!!!!

By the way, I'm talking about older more mature people in this instance, not teenage or college age relationships, I agree with that as being no friends rule, there's alot of crazy hormones going on at that age and sometimes situations become unavoidable. But trust and fidelity come first in a relationship!! the hell with whose around!! You have to stop blaming them for the problems!!!
[QUOTE=marie72;29***86]As I see it you are all blaming the ex-girlfriend or the old female friend, don't you think you have a problem being with a guy you can't trust. Whenever one of my boyfriends' cheated on me I blamed him. The guy has a choice to make and if the choice is to be with someone then how can you go through life thinking that he wanted someone else and you stopped him[/QUOTE] You have hit the nail on the head, Marie!





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