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[FONT="Comic Sans MS"][COLOR="DarkOrchid"]Hey [COLOR="Magenta"]ghostfreak[/COLOR], there's no way I'm going to judge you by your age. I'm fed up of people telling me I'm young and there's plenty more fish in sea. I understand fully that you truly love your girlfriend. A massive part of me still loves my ex, even in the knowledge that she cheated on me :(

In all honesty, I don't think it would be such a good idea to tell your girlfriend everything that you told your friend. If your girlfriend has misgivings about your relationship, she won't want you to tell her how much you love her and want to be there for her, because it will only elevate her feelings of being trapped.

Since her feelings have only recently surfaced, I would say that there is a good chance that she will start to miss you and what you have together. It's best at this time to let her realise that for herself. Why I didn't give my ex the cold shoulder the other night when she was feeling needy, I do not know, because it was my one chance to get her back and I blew it by being too forthcoming :([/COLOR][/FONT]
[FONT="Comic Sans MS"][COLOR="DarkOrchid"]Hey, [COLOR="Magenta"]ghostfreak[/COLOR]. Sorry for the late reply - been out pretending that I'm getting over my ex. In fact, guess who decided to send me a courtesy message this evening? I really thought she would have the sense to leave me alone after Saturday's heartache :( She just asked how I was - I'm not going to reply.

I actually saw your last post a few hours ago but I was out of time to reply. I've been thinking how rubbish your situation is. I feel for you, man, I really do. What your girlfriend has done is incredibly selfish. She's basically admitted that she's kept you dangling while she makes up her mind what [I]she[/I] wants. Why couldn't she have been up front and said "I don't think it's working - shall we call it a day?". That way, at least you could have aired your feelings and known what was going on in her head.

Like with my ex - why couldn't she have told me that she was attracted to another bloke? Why did she have to put me through the humilation of looking after her when she was hungover, knowing full well that she had cheated on me the night before? Why did she allow me to tell her that I wanted to be with her forever when she knew it was over for her? Why did she tell me she loved me when she was just looking for a way out?

The answer is simply that she is selfish. And this is exactly how your girlfriend is behaving: selfishly. Saying "that is why I insisted that we not speak for a few weeks so that it will help you get used to being without me" is for her benefit; to make her feel less guilty. But what she's done to you hasn't made you grow used to living without her - it's made you want her more than ever. I understand that.

In this situation, I think the only strength you can summon comes from the anger from how you have been treated. You wouldn't have treated your girlfriend in the same way, would you? I know I wouldn't have treated my ex in the same way she treated me. So I'm reminding myself that she wasn't good enough for me and that another girl will one day come along who deserves my love a million times more than my ex. It's the only thing that makes me get on with my day. Take it easy, man.[/COLOR][/FONT]

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