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Big problem
May 23, 2007
I've complained about my girlfriend before and I apologize if anyone gets tired of it but I'd like to know how you all feel about this situation.

I've been dating my girlfriend for 6 months. She is 17 and I am 18 which makes me an adult. I still live with my parents and I respect their household and the rules they give me within the household but apart from that they have no part in my life. Don't get me wrong, I love them and everything, but they wouldn't go ahead and forbid me from going someplace.

My girlfriend's parents impose a 10:30 curfew, she can't go out on school nights, she can't sleep over and basically we can't even go camping or anything. It irritates me but I completely understand since she is still 17.

Here's the problem: She will be 18 this summer and she still tells me her parents won't let her go out which is ridiculous. Her dad spits out this "it's my house, my rules, I'll stop paying for your school, I'll kick you out of the house if you don't listen to me" ******** whenever she tells him something reasonable like "I'll be a legal adult and I can do what I want." I understand the fact that I still won't be able to sleep over because it's his home and it's his rules and I respect that, but I don't respect the fact that he will not let his daughter go camping with me or sleep with me or spend the night even if she's 18. He says "my house, my rules." Yeah, but this doesn't apply. She will respect his rules while inside his home, but if she wants to do something he has to respect her choices because she is an adult but instead he plays the controlling game again.

I'm getting really fed up. I want to go camping with her but her dad doesn't want and as much as that irritates me I know I can't do anything because he still has control over her because she's not of age. The problem is that she tells me 'he says I'm still too young to sleep with boys' but honestly, if she lived alone, would he come over and make sure she wasn't with anyone? It's ridiculous, absolutely ridiculous and whenever I try to reason with her about it she gets defensive and takes their side and somehow turns the problem around on me. I'm going to be 19. I'd like to go on roadtrips, go on vacation, etc. I work and I have money and I'd like to take my girlfriend on a trip but I fear I won't even be able to and really can't live with that. What if I'm going with a group of friends to a bar until the wee hours of the morning and her father forbids her to stay out passed 11 and she concedes? I really don't know what to do anymore. I want to wait to see what happens when she's 18 but it seems as if we fight about this every day and it's unbearable.

Please give me some suggestions. I love this girl but a part of me feels as if I could live without her.

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