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This is a beautiful story. It hasn't happened to me in many years now. :) I mean being deeply in love for the first time. First time?

I can't say anything about this girl, although she seems to be somewhat volatile and maybe insecure. But you, you are the prototype of a Romantic!

Something I didn't get: are you living in the same town/city as her? If so, do you get to see her regularly? In this case, forgetting about her and moving on would be very hard for you.

The way-out is for you to approach her and ask her out. I know, I know, you are concerned about your friend. But if you are sure this girl is your soul-mate, if you are not acting just out of jealousy and if you are willing to commit yourself to this relationship, then go for it: you will be doing everybody a favour by realizing your love for this girl.

However, as Sera puts it, be prepared for any response from her. Even if she says NO, it may be not the ultimate response. Be patient, in any case.

Good luck.
To the OP, I think you should tell her. You've waited 6 years already-match your behaviours with your words.

To pendelum: Please clarify why you labelled this girl volatile and maybe insecure. I don't get it. The OP said they were both romantic and yet she got labelled as volatile and he a "prototype romantic!". I would think he is actually more insecure b/c he can see an exclusive, committed future with someone he's never dated, he finds NO fault with her, AND he hasn't told her how he felt in SIX years. To top it off, he said he'd give up oxygen for her, but is deliberating on whether or not to actually express his feelings, a way less extreme show of his love. Im sorry, but in my books, all these romantic feelings if unexpressed to the the object of affection should be saved for poetry because in life, thoughts can only get you so far-as the OP's situation clearly demonstrates.
Ok. The "prototype of a Romantic" means, unless my English is wrong, the classic Romantic. After reading his self-description, it is hard to think that he could be otherwise. There was no offense in my opinion about him. Really.

As for the girl, I meant no offense, either. To me, she appeared to be volative, because within a short period of time she was dating a second guy (wasn't she?), and yet neither was the love of her life. That was why I thought of her in terms of being insecure. As if she was still searching, but couldn't realize that her "real" love is just at her side. Both being volatile and being insecure belong to the Romantic type. Yet, I feel that our friend is even more romantic than her. Don't know exactly why.

Anyway, I was speculating somewhat, but I never intended to be or appear disdainful of other people's feelings and behaviour.
[QUOTE=pa43;3058085]Jack,

Do you and this girl ever talk about other girls for you? What's her reaction? Does she seem jealous? Since you're single, I'm surprised your friends haven't tried to set you up with anyone. Do you think this girl would be supportive of you meeting other girls or not?[/QUOTE]

No, we've never talked about my love life. We also never talk about her relationship with my friend. If she saw me strictly as a friend, she would probably talk about it somewhat, wouldn't she? Maybe this is a hint that she knows we had feelings for each other in high school? I don't know...





[QUOTE=pendulum;3057890]Ok. The "prototype of a Romantic" means, unless my English is wrong, the classic Romantic. After reading his self-description, it is hard to think that he could be otherwise. There was no offense in my opinion about him. Really.

As for the girl, I meant no offense, either. To me, she appeared to be volative, because within a short period of time she was dating a second guy (wasn't she?), and yet neither was the love of her life. That was why I thought of her in terms of being insecure. As if she was still searching, but couldn't realize that her "real" love is just at her side. Both being volatile and being insecure belong to the Romantic type. Yet, I feel that our friend is even more romantic than her. Don't know exactly why.

Anyway, I was speculating somewhat, but I never intended to be or appear disdainful of other people's feelings and behaviour.[/QUOTE]

No offense taken. She asked her current boyfriend out four months after her last one broke up with her. Before the one before who broke up with her, she was in a long-term relationship with her first boyfriend (the one for whom she wrote 100 poems). She was in love with him (clearly), but he ended up moving to the other side of the world and I think she felt less and less appreciated in their long-distance relationship (for example, she wrote him a poem and he said something like "Oh, it would take 100 of these for me to come home." So she wrote him 100 poems for Valentine's Day and he never came home). She was good friends with her next boyfriend and she ended her long-distance relationship and dated him shortly afterward. Even though they only lasted a month, she may have loved him (he's a very romantic person and one hell of a charmer). However, her current boyfriend isn't much of a romantic at all.





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