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OMG - she's making it clear she's working overtime to wreck your relationship, so far he's been playing right into her hands and YOU'RE worried about sounding controling? There's something seriously wrong with this picture.

My ex boyfriend's wife won't even allow him to be in the same room with me, even though I pose no threat whatsoever to their relationship, and could or would never try to insinnuate myself between them. She's not worried at all about looking or sounding controlling. Why? Because he loves her, and he cares when she's upset and he wants to make her happy.

There's a line between being the "cool girlfriend' and just being a doormat, and you're about to cross it. this woman has proven that her intention is to hurt you and wreck your relationship. You have every right to put your foot down and tell him it's time to choose. If you don't, he won't choose, I can promise you that. He has loyalties to this girl, obviously, or this wouldn't be the second time she's messed with you. She never would have had even one chance to mess with you if he didn't have some loyalty to her.

You can't always sit back and hope your man reads your mind and just automatically does the right thing. Sometimes you have to tell him, in no uncertain terms, what the right thing is. In this case, the right thing is to cut her out of his life completely and permanently. He says he's going to do that. If it were me, I'd tell him flat out that I'm tired of her messing with me, I'm tired of feeling like I have to compete with her, I'm tired of this woman thinking she can still wrap him around her finger. I'd tell him I appreciate very much him telling her it's over for good, and I will expect him to keep his word and never contact him again or he'll have all the time in the world to hang out with her because I'd be gone, and I wouldn't give a lick if I came off controlling. When a man really, truly loves you, he will respect you for putting your foot down and telling him what you will and won't tolerate. Unless you're afraid to find out he really doesn't love you. If that's your fear, I'll tell you straight up, letting him get away with this will only be postponing the inevitable. If he really doesn't love you, you're better off knowing now rather than later.

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