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[QUOTE=Larrylou'smom;3100105]Well, I'm kind of old fashioned as well, and if I were in what I considered a serious, commited relationship and my guy were living with me, I wouldn't stand for him having a separate household to maintain. If he has another house that he maintains and lives in part time and doesn't rent out, then he can live in it by himself until he's ready to really commit to me for real, but that's just me.

If this woman knows about his house and knows he stays there part time, and is ok with it, then she couldn't possibly be too clingy and needy. And c'mon, he's a big boy, he's no one's victim here. He wouldn't keep getting "sucked in" by this needy, aggressive woman if he didn't really want to be. As long as they are both ok and happy with the situation, I'd say dont' worry about it. If you start trying to talk him into leaving her, he might tell her that's your vibe, and before you know it, she'll be putting her foot down demanding that he break off all contact with his trouble making female friend and poof!! there goes your friendship with him. Don't help put him in a position where he has to choose between you and her. You may not like who he chooses.[/QUOTE]

I'm actually the one who cut all contact with him, to eliminate dealing with her. I would never dream of telling anyone how to live their life. Although, I don't like her for numerous reason, I'm not the one who has to deal with her. I've seen him in this downward spiral before when involved with this type of woman, it is his choice to be with her. She wants marriage, again for the third time in her young life, he doesn't, but that's none of my business.

I guess caring for someone is complicated and some might construe caring as chasing after HER man, I, on the other hand can be a friend with very high morals, I don't chase unavailable men, it's a waste of time and just plain wrong!!!! And your right she has painted the picture of me as a trouble making friend because I defended myself from HER lies!!! But, trouble making friends don't bow out they continue to cause trouble, I on the other hand stay away from her, far away... he lost me his best friend and now has to deal with it.

Oh, she would never rock the boat, for fear of giving him an excuse to leave her, (she needs her sugar daddy), by demanding that he sell his house or not allow him to go to his own home, she will rock the boat. I'm sure she drives by his home to make sure he's there and alone, when he's not at her house,as she does when he's working, I know for a fact that she stalks him (checks up on him) constantly.

I'm with you on the seperate house, either my partner is with me or not, as far as living together, I would perfer just to be in a committed relationship with seperate homes until the time comes to take it to the next level of commitment.....marriage.

All this is in the past for me. But still saddens me and sometimes creeps up and I feel like posting.

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