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[FONT="Comic Sans MS"][COLOR="DarkOrchid"]Hey, [COLOR="Magenta"]innocence[/COLOR]! It's nice to see that you've moving on to new guys after that complicated stuff before :) From the way you describe things I would say this bloke is interested but a bit scared of coming on too strong; he's playing it cool. Not calling you was a bit flaky, but maybe he was worried that it might be difficult to keep the conversation flowing. Do you think that is a possibility?

On a general note I would say don't be afraid to be the one to make the running. I think I would die from shock if a girl asked [I]me[/I] out. In fact, it was amazing when my ex asked me if I would like to go on holiday with her before we were even going out as a couple! I know the act of doing these things is very nerve-racking, but if you get the outcome you want then you will look back and think you made the right choice. Whereas, if you fail to act you will always regret not taking the chance![/COLOR][/FONT]
[QUOTE=ErimusValidus;3111991][FONT="Comic Sans MS"][COLOR="DarkOrchid"]Hey, [COLOR="Magenta"]innocence[/COLOR]! It's nice to see that you've moving on to new guys after that complicated stuff before :) From the way you describe things I would say this bloke is interested but a bit scared of coming on too strong; he's playing it cool. Not calling you was a bit flaky, but maybe he was worried that it might be difficult to keep the conversation flowing. Do you think that is a possibility?

On a general note I would say don't be afraid to be the one to make the running. I think I would die from shock if a girl asked [I]me[/I] out. In fact, it was amazing when my ex asked me if I would like to go on holiday with her before we were even going out as a couple! I know the act of doing these things is very nerve-racking, but if you get the outcome you want then you will look back and think you made the right choice. Whereas, if you fail to act you will always regret not taking the chance![/COLOR][/FONT][/QUOTE]


Hi there! Thanks so much for your reply! Yes, I've moved on...I don't think it would be a good idea for things to go anywhere with that friend of mine. I really like this new guy! And i noticed that you're male - it's good to have a guy's perspective on this. And you're from the UK as well!
I don't think he was worried that we wouldn't be able to keep the conversation flowing, since we had so much to talk about last time..we talked for hours. :( And i dont know..why a guy ask for the girl's number and message her to say we should 'catch up soon' if he didn't mean it? I'm worried that he was either being polite or has changed his mind...more worried about the latter. He also seemed really shocked when I told him my age - 19. Because I kept talking about a type of job which only graduates would usually have, he assumed that im a graduate..but im only on a gap year! So, he's this sucessful guy who has bought his own place, went to Eton..then Oxford..is now working in the City, and I'm just this 19 year old girl who's only just starting uni. Hmm. He's almost 25, by the way...so it's not a huge age difference, but completely different lifestyles.
It's a bit strange that I know him through my ex..and he asked me a couple of times how long ago that was. it was a year ago, and when I told him, he sounded relieved..and i thought it was a good sign?!

Anyway, I'm not expecting him to be texting/calling tomorrow (especially since he said he's going to the cricket). So you dont think it'd look as though I'm too desperate if I text him tomorrow evening/monday morning and ask if he wants to meet up next weekend?!

Thanks, once again!!
[QUOTE=innocence;3113164]Oh I don't know. Right now I'm too upset to want to see him..i would've been upset that we saw each other by chance and hadn't actually meant to see each other. He's online on facebook right now..guess he's back from the cricket. Argh!!! Haven't texted him yet...am tempted to leave it, at least until tomorrow. No contact since thursday!![/QUOTE]

Hmmm, that's a curious attitude. If I were in your shoes I'd be raging I didnt go because I'd be thinking it'd have been a golden opportunity to run into him and establish contact without having to lose face by picking up the phone. I think that you're feeling like this might be a good indication that you are investing far too much emotional energy into this situation. If mean, if you're like this after a day what'd you be like after a year!

Well, on the subject of calling, you know my advice; preserve your sense of mystique, desirability and allure - dont call! Making yourself not so available (in other words not serving yourself up on a plate!) will be sure to achieve this.

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