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I don't want to go into too much detail, and I'm not in the mood to write about every single little thing. In a nutshell, I love my girlfriend very much and want to be with her forever. The thing is, I tend to feel that even though she says she loves me too, I have a hard time believing that it's the same amount.

Let's just say that I wasn't able to be with her last summer, except for two short visits. I went about two months without seeing her at one point. So, I tried very very hard to stay in New York for this summer, and even though I was successful, I don't think she's appreciating it very much.

It seems that she isn't as interested in being with me as I am with her. I almost uninvited her to my little sister's bat mitzvah because of her numerous complaints about being away from her family for five days, and about how hot it is in our house, etc. (not to mention, this will be my last time seeing my childhood home). We made a sort of pact that we would go to the beach a bunch of times this summer, and I've even learned to drive there, all by myself. Needless to say, we haven't been to one beach all summer yet. There were at least two times when I told her to bring her beach stuff, and when she came to my place she suddenly wasn't "in the mood" to go. I have a gift certificate to a bowling alley that I'm pretty sure is going to go to waste, because she hasn't expressed any interest in going. Just last night, she went to a Goo Goo Dolls concert without me. I wouldn't be so upset about that, except for the fact that when she first told me about the concert, she invited me, and I uttered the fact that it was on the day of my sister's birthday. However, it was obvious that I wouldn't be going home just for that, because her bat mitzvah is shortly after. Anyway, I was uninvited, and was told that her mother suggested that idea, but I still believe it was my girlfriend's choice to uninvite me. And I told her over and over and over again that I wasn't going home for my sister's birthday, but she said I shouldn't go to the concert. She then said "Oh, my sister wants it to be just us, and we already ordered the tickets, and they're expensive" but she said it in a way that sounded like an excuse, especially since I was invited two seconds before.

The Goo Goo Dolls are her favorite band, and our first date as a couple was a concert by Duncan Sheik, MY favorite musician. And it was my first time seeing him live, so it was very special for me to take her as a date there. And now I've missed seeing her enjoy her first Goo Goo Dolls concert. The night before it, she even got my hopes up even more, by saying "my sister might ditch me to go with her friends instead" and I asked her "can you please take me if that happens?" and I sensed that she wouldn't even do that for me. I could guarantee that she would say "no, you need to work at your job so you can make more money" but I'm a college student and the shifts are very easy to cover for.

So anyway, it's been a bunch of her thinking that she's helping me, but she's only hurting my feelings even more. And I've tried constantly telling her these things to her face, but it just doesn't sink in. I've even gotten upset over these things, but then she only gets upset at ME by making it my fault somehow. I don't know how else to communicate with her because she isn't communicating with me and she's distancing herself from me. We used to do everything together, as many things as possible, and now I'm just being cast aside.

We usually hang out together on Sundays, but apparently not this week. She told me I could go dress shopping with her for my sister's bat mitzvah, and we would see a movie. And my mom's here to visit this weekend, so I invited her to dinner with us. Instead, she changed her mind and decided to go dress shopping with her sister. She said she wouldn't be able to come because "there won't be enough time to see a movie and go to dinner afterward" but she seemed to have enough time to see the movie already, and dinner isn't until 5.

So I'm at my wit's end, and my only remaining theory, is that I have to play some hard-to-get. I haven't been talking to her as much, only in one-word answers, which is completely opposite from myself. She keeps going on and on about how great the concert was, and talking about it with her friends, but anytime she calls me, I just say "oh, that's nice" and eventually just pretend I have somewhere to go. If she asks me to do something with her, I'll just say "we'll see" and I guess I'll tell her I feel like staying at home instead. I just don't know what else to do, because I've already tried to TALK about this with her. It's obviously not working. I really don't want to do this to her, but she needs to understand how she's making me feel. And I'll tell her that I'm just giving her some space, since I'm pretty sure that's what she wants. Maybe I'm being too clingy and maybe she's just annoyed by me. I WOULD like it if my girlfriend wanted to be with me all the time, but if it's possible for her to have too much of me, then I guess that's how it goes.

What are your thoughts?





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