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[QUOTE=midnightblu22;3124456]ots weird reading all this stuff about girls and what they wear and differentiating sluts/slutty behaviour lol. if this was 3 years ago and id be ranting on about this lke a mad woman. shorti you are obvoiusly secure with yourself which is good but its understandable why lucinda would say such harsh words and label these girls, even though its not very nice. it takes time to build yourself up if you got low self esteem. even though i kno its totally wrong to judge women for what they wear cos i wear similar stuff on occasions, i really think its something built into us, kind of like a natural instinct. women have this protective instinct inside of them that goes back to primal days where we looked after the kids and men were the hunters blah blah we feel we need to keep our men from straying and any other woman , EVEN if shes the sweetes nicest person ever,we will instantly take a dislike to if shes strutting around half naked cos our first reaction to that is insecurity and alot of the time jealousy but we dont know its that as we'd hate to look deep enough inside ourselves to admit it was! but it is that , because we want our men to look at US like that and we want to be the ONLY ones they look at like that. so we call these girls all these names yet we want our men to give us the same attention![/QUOTE]

i have to agree with you on this one. i used to be very insecure myself. i was overweight and not that attractive. in fact my first real boyfriend only happened last year and im 22 now. i used to put women down too because of my low self esteem back then. im sure we are all guilty of it at some stage. however if u do have a low self esteem and put others down, its not going to help u in the long run and help u to overcome that insecurity. it will make things worse and seem as if ur the one in the wrong. its just best to ignore these women regardless of what they look like, how they dress or if their actions are right or even wrong. to the OP, your boyfriend is with you and hes not hiding u from these cruises so u really have nothing to worry about. just ignore these girls and pay no attention to them. if u do, they will probably get a big head over the fact they are making other girls jealous. its completely natural to get a little jealous over other girls but try not to let it damage ur relationship.
[QUOTE=miyu;3124226]she is talking about girls who flaunt themselves in front of guys and it don't matter if they have a g/f, wife or not. they don't care because they are slutty, [email protected] lol and they still do it if they have a boyfriend, we are talking about girls who need a mans attention all the time or they can't get by. we are not talking about wearing cloths that girls wear because they are hot, or bar cloths...

but if you have a skirt shorter then a mini skirt... and your butt cheeks stick out and your not even bending over. but will also bend over on purpose so you can see everything!! lol they like to show off what they have to any guy. they don't care and I don't think they have any self respect or respect for others. [/QUOTE]

This is exactly what I'm talking about Miyu. It's not what a woman puts on her body that makes her appear slutty; it's how she [I]behaves[/I] in that clothing (or lack thereof, lol) I've worn revealing clothes in my life (what woman hasnt?) and Sera, I didnt regard myself as slutty either, but then I wasnt bending over and waving my backside all around the room at a 180 degree panoramic angle to ensure that there couldnt possibly be a man in the place who didnt get a good view of my butt-cheeks, and I wasnt manhandling my breasts while humping on some strangers leg, nor shoving my fingers down my own throat to simulate fellatio either!

God I'm starting to feel old, but this carry on does actually disgust me! If Iím with my sister in a situation where women are behaving like they've been spiked with the female version of viagra, we'll just sit there and have a good laugh at these girls desperate behaviour; but I'll make it my business not to be there in the first place if I'm in my bf's company, because that alters the atmosphere and in his company I find their behaviour crude and insulting. If I wanted us to watch that sort of thing as a couple I'd just rent a porn movie.

When it gets down to the topic of insecurities; if anyone wants to tell me I'm insecure because I dont appreciate that I'll just laugh in their face, because the behaviour of these girls is about the most overtly insecure carry on I've ever witnessed with my two eyes; the message is very clear: 'please appreciate my breasts and backside because this is how I measure my worth as a human being - and if my assets dont make me special in your eyes then I'm not special in mine either'.

I dont have a daughter, but if I did, by God, there's no way in HELL I'd raise her not to understand what's going on in the minds of females who behave that way. I'm sure if these girls took the time to truly consider what drives that behaviour they'd immediately become a very rare species.

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