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It is an addiction, I don't care what anybody else says. I know because I am the same exact way. To me there is nothing more thrilling and exciting than developing a crush, being head over heels, and then kissing and touching that person for the first time. I have never been good at being faithful to boyfriends. And I have cheated on my boyfriend of three years with three different people. The rush of it all is indeed very addicting.

But after awhile you realize (or at least I did) that there is an emptiness to all of that. That it's more important to build something that is real and lasting. I agree that your girlfriend needs to stop going out and drinking. Nothing positive ever comes from getting drunk. I bet that inside she is suffering pretty badly and she needs somebody to prove they will always be there for her no matter what. So stand by her side and just love her...my boyfriend did that for me, and although it took me awhile, I finally appreciate it more than I can ever say.
[QUOTE=GypsyArcher;3139294]...my boyfriend did that for me, and although it took me awhile, I finally appreciate it more than I can ever say.[/QUOTE]

And didn't you end up cheating on that one boyfriend who was there for you?
I'm SO NOT trying to be rude. It's just that there aren't a lot of girls out there like you.. I mean there are girls out there like that.. but not the majority. So that's my point OP. Even if you do "stand by her side" she'll end up cheating anyways. You're too young to be going through this BS drama.

I have never ever ever cheated on any of my boyfriends. If I wanted to cheat that meant I didn't care for them anymore. So you leave them..not cheat on them, thats the right thing to do. It's all about morals.

I don't care about whatever "addiction" she has. Sounds like shes taking you for a run my buddy..EVERYONEEEEEE loves the beginning of a relationship. But when you're in a TRUE relationship you know whats even better? Falling in love with that person more and more everyday. I am in a almost 2 year relationship and I wouldn't trade the beginning of the relationship for the present for ANYTHING! It is sooo good right now!!! When you're truly in love, trullyyyy in love with the right person, you don't go out looking to get drunk to find the opposite sex. And u know what else? no matter how drunk she was she knew what she was doing. I have been absolutely plastered, but I still knew the difference between right and wrong. Unless you have completely blacked out. But whatever excuses you want to believe.. Just how you're letting this slide so easily which is beyond my comprehension, don't think this is the last time this will happen. Oh no,, not the last time. Certainly wasn't the first either if this an "addiction"...I know you want to believe everything that she says.. I know trust me. But she's playing you for a fool..you need to step out of denial...

Good Luck.. :angel:
See i dont know what to say, i know if this were me, and i were to find out my girl went clubbing, and got with some guy who gave her a hickey on her neck, id leave her, no second thoughts. As much as i love her, i wouldnt date someone who has cheated on me. She knew the risks she was taking by doing it, and apparently those risks were worth it.

I dunno you have two choices, at least two that i see:

1) Treat it as a real addiction. Assume that she really has no control over what she does, and stick with her while she tries to fix it for you. But if you do this, you have to lay the rules down, tell her how you feel about her cheating, and what consequences she will face if she does it again. And if it does happen again, whatever you do, follow through with the consequences, if you say you two are over if it happens again, make sure you are over for a couple weeks. Because if you just say "Oh, its okay, just dont let it happen again", she wont really feel threatened, and theres a really good chance of her doing it again.

2) Leave her now, tell her that you need the break because its really messed up of what she did to you. As many serious talks as you have with your girlfriend, you have to realize, that there are other people out there, and many of those people you will have the same "kids and marriage" talk with. She cheated on you, its obvious, she is not committed to your relationship. Taking her back once is already risky enough, if it happens again, leave her and dont look back. Find someone who can respect you, respect your relationship with her.

Personally, i think option 2 is better. I really dont believe in an addiction just like that, its more of "lack of respect for your boyfriend/girlfriend" or "lack of respect for yourself". She doesnt seem to care, i mean if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, and you go out clubbing, personally i think thats a red card right there. Clubbing is primarily to meet new people of the opposite sex or just to hook up with them. If you have someone, there really isnt too much of a point to go clubbing unless you dont have respect for yourself, dont have respect for your boyfriend/girlfriend, or just flat out dont care about your relationship. Just talk to her, see how she really feels. Personally i dont think theres any addiction at all, she just disrespects you, and if you take her back, shes going to keep walking all over you.

Be careful with your decision. Both options can end well, and both options can end horribly.





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