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Re: Vent vent vent
Aug 8, 2007
[QUOTE=apple_juice;3144335]i know he isnt keen on me going to his nights out, because once (and only once) we had a fight and it spoilt his night. he doesnt want that happening again.[/QUOTE]

Once is really all it takes AJ. He is very likely worried that this will happen again, especially since you haven't seen eachother a whole lot in the past couple of months. He is looking forward to his exams being over and only wants to focus on that. Can you blame him?

[QUOTE=apple_juice]If I had barely seen him in two months, soon as the exams finished, id rush off to him. there is a huge imbalance in this relationship. im fed up of it. im fed up of not feeling loved. im fed up of not feeling as though he is into me.[/QUOTE]

But that is you, not him. You can't expect him to do what you would do in this situation. Guys and girls think [I][B]very[/B][/I] differently about these sorts of things. If you really want things to work this time you have to start taking that into consideration. Do I blame you for being hurt, no. But if you want to be invited and not be thought of as the girlfriend who gets drunk and starts an argument you have to start with you. You have to be able to overlook him wanting to spend this night out. You have to accept that you may not be spending the time together you use to. He's in med school, it's only going to get worse hon. You should really take this time that you can't see him over the next week or so and think about these things.

Has it occured to you that in all this time you have been on again off again that just maybe the two of you have grown apart in two completely different directions? It does happen AJ, and no amount of trying can make you go back to how it use to be.
Re: Vent vent vent
Aug 9, 2007
[QUOTE=happymom28;3144478]Once is really all it takes AJ. He is very likely worried that this will happen again, especially since you haven't seen eachother a whole lot in the past couple of months. He is looking forward to his exams being over and only wants to focus on that. Can you blame him?



But that is you, not him. You can't expect him to do what you would do in this situation. Guys and girls think [I][B]very[/B][/I] differently about these sorts of things. If you really want things to work this time you have to start taking that into consideration. Do I blame you for being hurt, no. But if you want to be invited and not be thought of as the girlfriend who gets drunk and starts an argument you have to start with you. You have to be able to overlook him wanting to spend this night out. You have to accept that you may not be spending the time together you use to. He's in med school, it's only going to get worse hon. You should really take this time that you can't see him over the next week or so and think about these things.

Has it occured to you that in all this time you have been on again off again that just maybe the two of you have grown apart in two completely different directions? It does happen AJ, and no amount of trying can make you go back to how it use to be.[/QUOTE]

thanks for posting. you always give such sound, constructive advice.

Funny thing is that he started the argument that night. He made a crude comment about the girl who he dated after he broke up with me, and saw a guy who i kissed whilst we had broken up, i started crying because it hurt a lot. then we argued. he said sorry, but i just didnt want to know and went home early. It really annoys me how he still holds me responsible for that evening.

No, I do not blame him one bit for wanting to enjoy himself tonight. I hope he does. He deserves it after his hard work. Im actually looking forward to hearing about the drunken stories (us students eh).
Right now, I am glad he didnt invite me along tonight. I couldnt imagine anything worse than being with him and his friends. I didnt get upset so much about being out with him, but the fact that he didnt arrange for us to meet today. But again, I don't blame him. Im just a little upset.

Brook-
I loved him so much in the past because we always had amazing times together. We could spend every day together, and we still couldnt get enough of eachother. We did really fun things together. It always felt so good. I dont know if I could enjoy it with someone else as much as i do enjoy things with him. I am so attracted to him as well, never felt anything like it before. I just want to get it back. May be impossible now. I feel as though I have lost a lot of faith in him.
I get upset and frustrated because I do not know where I stand or how he feels most of the time. I expect him to be clear and not confused about how he feels about me. I dont think that is a lot to ask for. Im really not that demanding. Really.

I messaged him goodluck this morning. He is waiting to take his exam. He sent a message back saying thanks, he will let me know how it goes.





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