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What is ya'll's definition of being in love?If a Man were to tell a Woman he loves her,but is also in love with her what do you think he actually means?
[QUOTE=Lotus_Blossom;3146589]What is ya'll's definition of being in love?If a Man were to tell a Woman he loves her,but is also in love with her what do you think he actually means?[/QUOTE]


it means he LOVES her.....

what you DON'T want to hear is I love you but I'm NOT "in love" with you
Thank you rosequartz!:) Anyone else?:D
I'd rather deal with why you're asking rather than offer up a generic response to the topic.

Are you with someone now who said he loves you AND is in love with you? And why don't you believe him? Are there things in his behavior, his actions toward you that make you think he's less than sincere?

MOre to the point, I think it all depends. Every situation is different, and there's really no way of effectively answering your question without more particulars of this situation. It could be he feels something for you that he's never felt before for any other woman, it could be that he's "loved" or cared for or had some kind of feeling for other women but not like this before, OR it could just be he wants to get down your pants and said what he thought would do the trick, we just don't know. What do YOU think he meant by it?
[QUOTE=Lotus_Blossom;3146589]What is ya'll's definition of being in love?If a Man were to tell a Woman he loves her,but is also in love with her what do you think he actually means?[/QUOTE]

Hi Lotus Blossom (beautiful username by the way!:) ) I can tell you what I mean when I say that I both love and am in love with my bloke; here's the 'love' part - I love the components of who he is, I love how they come together and make up the person that he is, the kindness, the gentleness, the decency, the compassion, the spiritual awareness, the shyness, these are some of the elements of his character that I value so deeply I actually love them, and so, because he encompasses all these things, I love him as a result. The cherry on the cake for me is his sense ignorance of all this, the clueless way he drifts along seemingly unaware of what fantastic stuff he's made of! If he read this post I'm writing right now he'd probably laugh and tell me I'm mad, but do so in a very bashful and embarrassed manner, which I would find very endearing; there is no arrogance in this man.

Now for the really fun part, the sense of being 'in love'! I could possibly find all the things I've listed above in another person and it would not cause me to fall in love, because these things I've listed are wonderful things, but they dont cause a womans heart to thump in her chest when a man walks in the room, and they dont cause that very potent reaction that entwines the emotions with the hormones and causes her to look at him while they're in company and thank God it's her he's with and not one of the other women there. I love every element of his physicality, even though his shoulders are narrower than I'd normally prefer in a man, and his legs are a bit on the short side, lol; I smell the traces of his aftershave from the pillow when I'm alone in the bed I get a rush of emotion. If we're arguing and I'm alone in the car I'll smell my hands at each set of traffic lights that turn red, it is almost an involuntary reaction, because I can be sure there'll be a transference of aftershave from his hands to the steering wheel and from the wheel to my hands. That's what being in love is for me; it's a sense of the absolute requirement of another persons presence. And, it's distinct from 'love' which is an absolute respect for the essence of a person. These two states of love can and do exist both simultaneously and independently, and it is beyond wonderful when you find yourself in the former situation and they both arrive together.

Those are my definitions of the terms anyway, and I would expect a man who told me that he both loved me and was in love with me to be telling me this was the way he felt (and if it isnt and I've gotten it terribly wrong and find out he just thinks I've a nice arse, needless to say that'll be a dreadful disappointment, lol!)





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