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I think if you have to ask him where the relationship is going, then it is already pretty clear where it is going - nowhere.

It's definetly true that if this guy was really crazy about you then he wouldn't be able to get enough of you, and he'd want to be with you as much as possible. I agree that the whole "I'm broke" and "I'm not a phone guy" are just a bunch of convenient, well thought out excuses.

I don't think he's necessarily a bad guy...if the sex is good then you are getting equally as much out of the situation, aren't you? But the problem is that you seem to want a relationship, not just a good time. Honestly? I don't think you need to ask this guy anything. You are not a fool. Stop seeing him outside of work. If he asks what the problem is just say, "Oh, I'm looking for a relationship, not just a friend with benefits. I'm not cut out for that kind of thing. Sorry."
[QUOTE=GypsyArcher;3159128]I think if you have to ask him where the relationship is going, then it is already pretty clear where it is going - nowhere.

It's definetly true that if this guy was really crazy about you then he wouldn't be able to get enough of you, and he'd want to be with you as much as possible. I agree that the whole "I'm broke" and "I'm not a phone guy" are just a bunch of convenient, well thought out excuses.

I don't think he's necessarily a bad guy...if the sex is good then you are getting equally as much out of the situation, aren't you? But the problem is that you seem to want a relationship, not just a good time. [B]Honestly? I don't think you need to ask this guy anything. You are not a fool. Stop seeing him outside of work. If he asks what the problem is just say, "Oh, I'm looking for a relationship, not just a friend with benefits. I'm not cut out for that kind of thing. Sorry.[/B]"[/QUOTE]

I completely agree!!! *high five!* :D

If you ask me, you probably don't NEED to ask this guy anything. He has already made known his real "intentions" through his actions. Remember, ACTIONS speak louder than words. He's telling you already how he feels about you and the so-called "relationship". I would just distance myself and call it a day.


BUT...if you MUST get some closure with him, and would feel better speaking with him about it, [B]PLEASE [/B]under NO circumstances text/e-mail him! That just leaves things so "easy" when a person can hide behind technology. Not only that, but you run the risk of him ignoring your text or e-mail, and in the end...what do you really have?? He would probably start avoiding you or ignoring you at work!! Don't let him off that easy. I think you should just invite him over (like you did already) and have an honest heart-to-heart talk with him if blowing him off completely seems too cold for you. Either way, you still leave with your dignity in tact.

Wish you well! Keep us posted! ;)





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