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[QUOTE=happymom28;3209724]Hi AJ. Please do not take this wrong way because I am not trying to be cruel, okay.

Stop dealing with him! You are both playing this "I don't care" game in the hopes that the other one will show they care more and try to win them back. Enough is enough already! He is who he is. You are who you are. The bottom line to all of this is [I]YOU ARE NOT COMPATIBLE[/I].

The best and most healthy thing you can do for yourself is to delete any way you have to get in contact with him (phone number, email, etc..). This will keep you from contacting him in a moment of weakness, which we all know you have frequently. Then, do not answer his attempts to contact you.

Put your money where your mouth is. If you are tired of all the drama and headaches then stop it. You have the power to end this. It's either you put an end to it and move on with your life or accept that this is the kind of dysfunctional relationship you and your boyfriend (ex-boyfriend, boyfriend, ex-boyfriend, etc..) will have.

I wish I had the power to make you stop it but I don't. If you only could not contact him for a whole month and just move on with your life you would see how silly you have been acting. You and him are equally creating all of this grief. Why????????[/QUOTE]

Thanks for replying happymom.

I know the solution is just so clear.
But either way, for closure, Id like to talk and reach a decision but I do not want to intiate the conversation.
Do you think he will bring it up? He is calling me all the time. But he acts like he just doesnt care. Or am I taking things the wrong way? I dont think so. Hes been out with friends for the past couple of days- not arranging to see me. he mustve really missed me. im bored at home today, nd he is at home listening to the radio. just great, isnt it?
I put in so much effort, but during my holiday I realised I couldnt put in any more effort. So Im going to sit back. But at the same time, why should I sit back? I mean, I could bring it up but i really DONT want to. my friends tell me to relax and let him come to me. but why should i let his drag on? im tired. i know it'd be better coming from him but wil it ever? i would like a discussion and a firm decision either way.

i know what ive got to do really deep down. i just find it comforting coming on here to vent and talk. thanks.

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