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[QUOTE=Rach4149;3215418]Well there's this guy who i have known for about 2 or 3 months now, and i didn't really like him in a huge way until he told me that he thought i was attractive. Since then i've been head over heels for him, but the BAD thing is that he has a girlfriend who he doesn't really spend time with, and only three days ago he admitted to me that he likes me and this week has been MAJORLY flirting with me, but only because on Monday his girlfriend was doing a different sport for our sports day (im in high school by the way) and so he felt free to flirt with me the whole day. So i like him, he likes me and her, and his BEST FRIEND likes me but i dont have feelings for him at all.

Also, yesterday i was sitting in the canteen anex with two of my friends, and so was his gf with two of her friends. The guy i like and his friend walked into the canteen and instead of going to his gf, he came STRAIGHT to me, looked at her and then sat down right next to me and kept looking up at her. My friend suggested that he should go out with me instead of his gf and then we kinda looked at eachother and then he looked away and smiled apoligetically at his gf, who i think heard my friend say this.. [B]Is this saying something?[/B] How is there a sure way to know who he really likes better? Im not the sort of 'forward' person who asks personal questions liike that though, so i really have NO clue what to do! [B]I like him so much and i hate seeing him with someone that he's not happy with and i suspect that he's only staying with her because he doesnt want to break her heart.[/B] Im also expecting them to have another fight too, because they had one recently because he was hugging other girls and talking to them and shes the jealous type.

What should i do??[/QUOTE]

Yeah... it's say that he's an idiot.

People can't control their emotions, but we can control our actions. If he doesn't want to be with his girlfriend anymore than he needs to be a man, and respect her enough to break it off. And if he wants to really be with you, he'll break it off with her and be wtih you.

Flirting can be innocent.. but it doesn't sound like its innocent here.

Sounds like he's playing stupid high school games at the expense of your emotions and his girlfriends.

You, on the other hand... put your feelings aside for a moment, and have the respect to leave an [I]unavailable[/I] boy alone. As I said, if he's honestly into you, he'll break up with her.

And here's a tip that may be helpful in the future... most boys that persue other girls while they have a girlfriend will most likely do the same to you if you ever start a relationship.

Addressing your last statement:
If he's that unhappy with her he'll break it off. If he really cared about breaking her heart, he wouldn't be flirting openly with other girls. If he thought rationally he'd realize that that unfaithful behavior will hurt her more than to just end it.

Sounds like your crush likes female attention and is more concerned with getting it then he is about his girlfriend's feelings. Remember that he'd most likely be the same way with other girls if you and him get together.

I say forget about him and look for someone more crushworthy.
[QUOTE=Rach4149;3215418]Is this saying something? How is there a sure way to know who he really likes better? Im not the sort of 'forward' person who asks personal questions liike that though, so i really have NO clue what to do![/QUOTE]

I think right now he is saying that he doesn't respect his girlfriend. I know you are in high school and you are young, but it is like he is blatantly trying to make her jealous or mad. That seems kind of silly to me.

[QUOTE=Rach4149;3215418]I like him so much and i hate seeing him with someone that he's not happy with and i suspect that he's only staying with her because he doesnt want to break her heart. Im also expecting them to have another fight too, because they had one recently because he was hugging other girls and talking to them and shes the jealous type.

What should i do??[/QUOTE]

I know you really like him, especially since he said he found you attractive. But don't suspect that he is unhappy and he is only staying with her out of pitty or not wanting to hurt her. Guys tend to say things like this (even young ones) when they want to try to juggle two girls at once. If I were you I wouldn't do anything unless and/or until he breaks it off with her. If he is that unhappy with her it shouldn't be that difficult for him, right? You don't want to be seen as this horrible person who broke them up which is what you will look like if you actively pursue him while he is still dating her.





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