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[FONT="Comic Sans MS"][SIZE="3"][COLOR="DarkOrchid"]Okay, here we go again!! :mad: I went to lunch with 'new guy' on Friday. Then I spent the day with him Saturday.....spent some time at his house, went to dinner, went to a movie, walked around in some stores and went home. We kissed each other goodnight (didn't feel what I did with my ex....but willing to give it time) and then I went home.

He called Sunday morning and wanted me to go someplace. I politely declined letting him know I had to go to the store, get some groceries, do some laundry and so on. (Excuse ME, but my MAID is on vacation....for the rest of her life!) Then he called me last night (Sunday....that same day) and asked me what I was doing. I said "I'm reading." Then he laughed this sort of sarcastic laugh. I just sat there on the phone and said nothing......I felt he was ridiculing me for reading. Then he went on to say he's never read a book in his life (HUH??) and just couldn't get interested in them. THEN he said "I thought you had things to do!) Well, again, excuse me! I DID my work and was taking a break with a good book. He lives only five blocks from me and expected that, if I had time to read a book, I should have had time to come over to see HIM. I've known him for about 6 months now...he's been 'waiting in the wings' after I went back with my ex. But, I did go out with him quite a few times when I broke up with my ex....would go back to my ex....break up......you know the drill. WELL.....even then, if he wanted me to do something with him and I'd tell him "I'd love to, but I already have plans with one of my girlfriends." He would get angry and send me an email saying "If it was ME going out with friends, I would have invited YOU!" EXCUSE ME!! What is WRONG with just wanting to spend some time with friends ALONE? We wouldn't be able to talk about some things with a man there. Plus, my single friends might get the opinion I was taking a 'date' with me when they didn't bring a guy with THEM. WHAT GIVES HERE???

HEY GUYS.....what on EARTH is WRONG with ME wanting to do things I want to do!!!??? :confused: I just got out of a 2-1/2 year relationship with my ex acting the SAME way. If HE wanted to do something on a certain day and I didn't want to.....maybe go someplace with just ME, or do something with a girlfriend or whatever......he would get angry and not call me for DAYS. He was POUTING (I know him VERY well.....he was my ex-husband's brother). That would hurt me VERY much. Even if I called HIM, he would let his machine get it and not pick up until HE was ready to call or got over being mad because he did not get HIS way. He even did that a few times when I just didn't feel like spending the night with him or him with me at my house......he'd get upset and not call for DAYS.

But.....know what? BOTH of them blame ME for this!!! I've heard things like "If two people love each other, they want to spend ALL their time with the other."......OR....."Why don't you want to introduce me to your friends?" HEY GUYS.....what IS wrong with not wanting to 'be connected at the hip' with someone??? It has NOTHING to do with how we feel about you....NOTHING!

I am getting SO tired of being the 'bad guy' here because I want to have SOME time to MYSELF to do some things that I like for ME.

Have you guessed that I am REALLY pi*@ed off here??!!:mad:

Guys AND gals......please give me some feedback on this. I'm 64, was married for 26 years, did the 'dating thing' for a while, then decided to stop, work on a home business and didn't day ANYONE for about 14 years......then came along my ex and fell in love. But OH the DRAMA when he didn't get HIS way. NOW here it is happening yet AGAIN! SIGH!!!

Just signed FRUSTRATED and ANGRY,
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