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Hi Everyone,

I am in a very diffcult situation and would love to get some advice of all who would like to contribute......

Ok First off I met a girl I worked with and after initially not really liking eachother it became obvious after around three months or so that there was something there. I was seeing a girl (nothing serious) and she had a livein BF at this stage.
Anyway one drunken night (I was drunk) last Feb she gave me a lift and ended up siting onmy lap we fooled around but did not kiss or have intercourse.

I thought I have to work with her and dont want to wreck her homelife and everything so left it at the office flirting until around july.

She was constantly mentioning them breaking up once they move out and we were getting closer...spending time out of work with eachother as well as the 5 days a week.

Anyway by August we had started seeing eachother and she was on a break with her BF whilst they still live together....(lease ran out in Oct) so it was difficult but she broke it up and it really seemed like she was over it although I knw he was still wanting her.

I really thought that living with an ex the likelihood of them sleeping together would have been high once or twice but that was all I would expect.

I actually quit my job with her at this time as the ups and downs were putting a strain on me and time out of work together was always much better - she was not the only reason I quit as I also disliked the job.

Anyeway she aassured me not even that was happening and I believed her and moved on......

ANYWAY, she moved out a couple of weeks ago to my excitement as she had been up and down a lot having to live with an ex and obviously grieving etc whilst seeing the person everyday would be very difficult!!

Anyway after about a week and a half there was a night or two where her mobile was switched off and i didnt here from her for a few hours which was a bit odd , in the whole time we had been seeing eachother there is hardly 3 hors where we didint chat..... I just had a gut feeling something was not right.....

Anyway, I managed to read a message she had sent to a friend in September (1 month after they broke up) telling her friend they had slept together a couple of times and it was hard living tgether, although things had been a lot better between them since the break.....
This was a fairly upsetting message but more so the fact she had lied than the actual act, as I had thought that would happen at some stage.....
This got my suspicions racing over tho so one night when she had said she was tired and not up for anything, i drove to their old place and saw her car there........
Then I knew why I was suspicious.

I confronted her about the whole thing the next day......
She told me that the message was to his friends GF and she didnt want tosay how she really felt as he would find out and admitted to sleeping with him once but ONLY a week after they broke up and that was all.......
I was quite angry and we left it at that.......
That week she saw him the next 2 nights as I had said to her I didnt know what to do and whether i wanted to speak to her again.....

Anyway about 5 days later we were bouth out on the town and saw eachother, one thing led to another and we slept together that night.

She left to go home although I dint think she was going home so drove back to myplace and thought I might drive past to see if shes there in the morning......

SO i drive back in the morning and she is there at the ex's....I spoke to her and asked her where she was and she flat out lied to my face. i told her i had left something at her house and wanted to pick it up but she made 100 excuses as to why I couldnt come over agfter telling me she was at home.

Anyway that day I told her I had followed her the night before and know where she went....she had told me the prev night that they had got something to eat the night b4 (which she told me on phone), and that she then went out and thought she would crash on the couch there instead of having to drive back again.......

ANYWAY!!!!! I couldnt decide what to do but I decided that night it was all over and that i couldnt tryust her, she cried and cried and told me how she wont see him anymore and rang him and told him.....

We had a chat afterwards and decided we wont pursue a r'ship but will just be fu"k buddies basically but without picking up others if we can.......

That was about a week ago and i know that the ex and her had spoke
Anyway I dont think I can handle knowing that they are stil seeing eachother after the betrayal.......
She told me that the had a email convo but I knw they spoke so the lies have started again.......

The hardest part about this whole situation is that APART from the Ex we are a perfect couple we can spend hours weeks months together and never have arguments, the love has been great and everyone tells us we look perfect togther................

I really dont wnt to lose her out of my life as i know we can see eachother and be so good.

Is she really just finding it difficult to part with a companion and that why she's hiding it? cos she knows it hurts me?

What do i do? HELP??????!!!!!!!





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