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I'm trying to get some advice on what I should do...this isn't a girl problem it's a self-confidence issue for me now.

So after I told her we should be friends because she basically said she wasn't "interested in anyone at the moment", things chilled down a bit (for like a day or two). So, I we went and got lunch and I said I'm done smoking for a bit blah blah. Well, IMMEDIATELY after I say this she is like, "Yea. I haven't smoked in a week and I won't this week". Well, we are leaving lunch and she is just like "Let's smoke tonight, let's smoke tonight!" I just ignore it and don't call her or whatever. Well, the next day she calls me and to see what's up. Well, I call her out for being a "mooch" and kind of get mad at the fact of how naive she is about getting stuff from people. Well, I cool off and chill with her later. Since then we have spent a ton of time together. Like hanging out every night.

Now, at first I thought she would do nothing for me ever but... I called her up and asked her to sober drive me to a party and to come. She said yes, and did it for me (while standing next to me the whole time--i had 3 people ask if she's my gf). Then we hung out 4 or 5 straight nights. On facebook I had a band listed (The Academy Is...) as one of my favorite artists (of a ton). I had never mentioned anything about them. Well, I didn't really want to go see them but another band. I just kinda blew it off and acted like I wasn't sure if I"d go. Well, she pushed it enough and got me to take her, her little sister, her best friend (who I'm now good friends with). She downloads every single song I have playing in my car (which was normal to me until I was on her computer and found songs I had listed on facebook, that she had also dl'ed).

I took my sister to make it less weird. We all had fun and all over this past thanksgiving I hung out or talked to her everyday except thanksgiving. The following week we hung out a few nights and then twice on the weekend. Well...the second time around that weekend I had called her and asked her to come to a party but I needed someone to drive. Well, I'm about to leave and freak out (not actually infront of everyone) but I think I'm getting cock-blocked by my two friends and the guy that now "liked" her. Well.. I was wrong but she didn't end up coming b/c of her friend. I also came across as an *******. Well, after I get back (I was ****ed up) her, her friend, and I decide to leave (I'm in passout mode now). So she's like "Can we pick up my friend." I'm like sure. We get this kid at a frat and he's beligerent. Well, apparently he tried to hook-up with her and **** didn't work out well and didn't happen.

This week I was in her room from 12-7am talking and helping her with a paper. Now... I had got a text the next morning after I had dropped her and that kid off saying "You're not mad at me are you?" I just said I had a bad night. She asks if i want to talk about it. I decline. Her roommate that night said something like we both had bad nights and she was wondering if it was about the same person. I have no clue what this meant because I didn't know what the kid had done (nor do I care, he was drunk). Well... I kind of thought about it and it was a moment where her friend was trying to make an obvious connection between us. Well, we were supposed to hang out the next 2 nights but I came back too late both times.

So this past thursday she calls and had nothing to do so we grab her roommate a coffee and I got some food. We go back and she had me name movies she needs to watch or something (she hasn't seen a lot of good classic comedies and the like). Well, we do and I"m just chillin making fun of her because she laughs at everything I say. Anyway, her friend Liz (who came to the concert with us) hadn't returned her calls so I said well ****... you should probably call her. Turns out Liz and her BF broke up and she was in a terrible state. So we go see her and all that. It was kinda weird but whatever...girls talking about getting over a guy. So anyway...we go to her roommates BF's that night and I was the only high one there so I was just relaxing watching them play beer pong. Well, her friend keeps asking me if I'm ok. I'm like yea... they get me to drink 4 beers and take a shot of tequila so I'm feeling ok now. Well, we smoke and I"m the only one who gets high.

So after we smoke they are like let's play beer pong. Well, I said I'd play and gets off the couch and runs up to me and hugs me. I didn't hug her back (I don't know why I just wasn't thinking and was holding something). Well...that wasn't a good idea. She freaked out and her and her friends and all went to the bathroom. Well she comes out (kinda worked up-sad-pissed) and I ask her what's up. She's like, "you don't like it when i touch you." I'm just like, "What?". So I just say give me a hug and she did.

Later that night when I dropped her off I had her give me a hug again. Soo... at the moment I think we are friends but there is an underlying awkwardness between us. Like we NEVER are physical and quite frankly it's because I don't intiate anything. She'll grab my arm or hit me when I make fun of her. She'll try to hug me or whatever...

Now. I did say we were friend but I have had 3 friends tell me straight up to make a move on this girl. 1 was because he's seen what we are like together and here's these rambling stores (sorry this is long). The other was one of my best friends and it was completely random. The other is because I tell him how things are and he just said to do it. Well, how the **** do I go about making a move on this girl at this point in time? What I've realized is I have pretty much cut off and physical affection from her because I wasn't sure if she was interested in me.

I can call her up anytime and ask her to hang out, chill, eat or whatever and she will do it. I haven't taken her out on a date since the second one but we've chilled enough to make sometimes feel like it. I mean coffee+puppy store+mall shopping+me waiting for her to get a peticure+dinner+more shopping.

Is it possible that she wants to take it slower too? I don't know. My friends I can tell are a little mad at times because of how much time I spend with her.

One of my friends also said, "She may have realized who you are and realized you're worth it." Whatever that means...

She also trusts me quite a bit...if that helps at all.

Now to study for one of my finals... TAI!





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