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[B]THIS IS SUPER LONG... I'm sorry but I have to let it all out if this is worth posting.[/B]

I'm a complete wreck and I need constructive support/advice on this. It might be obvious to you but not to me. :(



I'll give a quick history of myself to make sure anyone who actually reads this can understand it better. I flirt and rarely will find girls I'm willing to ask out or whatever. Hooking up is meh and I only really do that while I'm drunk. I'm in college and a sophmore.

Background of this girl: Used to like my friend and is a tad flirty. She gets really really flirty while drunk. Has had 2-3 emotional breakdowns at parties I've been at. The cause is some long *** story where she lost her virginity to some guy who never called her back when he came to our school. Very pretty, smart, and works at my country club back home (though I completely ignore the people that work there--I wouldn't flirt with the girls).

So... I come here because the whole situation needs to be let out. Basically there is this girl who had been at my friends house a lot (I basically live there on weekends and weeknights). It was only for parties or drinking the usual college house atmosphere. Anyway, she used to like one of my friends and always wanted to keep hooking up with him. He has consistently turned her down and made it clear there is no interest. Another one of my friends who lives there "likes" her and all he does is invite her over to drink (he's shy and just gets flirty with her--she never responds to him). Then I come in... for some reason I thought this girl was cool. I've known her for a few months and 2 weeks ago she came over to the house and there was something between us. She never smokes weed but she wanted to do it with me. I told her that was fine and we smoked. I was quite drunk and tried to offer sincere advice about my friend who she had liked. She made it clear that she didn't like him anymore. We smoked and she got mad/upset and it was kind of weird the rest of the night. I told them both (while drunk) that I had messed up. She said it was cool and hugged me and my friend didn't care at all.

Flash forward to the following Thursday (this past thursday)
She comes over because the friend who "likes" her invites her over. She comes and drinks...this time she's really on to me (she's not drunk). She wants to play beer pong and flippy cup with me. I get the sense of something is there, but don't go very far because of everything going on. Well... she ends up passing out early and wakes up the next morning to my friend and me smoking. She sits there for a while and when he leaves (this is the friend that she used to like) she asks me if I'll smoke with her. I say sure and we do. She comes and sits really close to me and has me light the bowl yada yada. Now I'm really high (I'm sorry I'm not a pot head it's just this is how things played out) and she asks me if I'll go get lunch with her.

We go to lunch and it was great. Good talk and everything was pretty much just natural. She finally gives me her number :p. Then she says she wants to go the puppy store in the mall. Well, my friend calls and asks me to smoke and she's sitting right there. I say no and decide to go the puppy store. Things were fine, I was really tired but it was fine. So I drop her off at her place and we had been talking about hanging out later and she told me to call her after she was done with some stuff.

I call her up that night, and she asks if she can bring her friend and her bf. I say that's fine and we go to my friends place (where both the other 2 guys live, note: the guy who likes her wasn't there and she knew). Anyway, it's just 6 dudes and me and her. We smoke they play some video games, it was a boring night. My friend who is rarely there and doesn't know this girl was also there. He claims this girl showed all signs of really liking me and I agreed (I'm not retarded). Well, we are sitting there and everyone else is gone and this is what she says to me, "[B]I need some action.[/B]" I'm just like what? And she said she hadn't "hooked up" in a while. Now, I'm just like ok what on earth is going on here (once again, high, trying to think). So we wait around for 20 then I ask her if she wants to head back. She says yes. She hasn't drank anything and I take her back but first get her cigarrettes which she never smokes but she said she just wanted one:confused:. So I walk her up and she smokes the square (I don't smoke) and just talk. I didn't know what to say (it was 2 am) and I was just like well what are you trying to do and she said she needed to get sorority **** done for the next morning at 9 am. I ask her if she wants to bring it to my place and she declines.

The whole next day I'm freaking out about what happened, I've never had a girl say [B]I need some action[/B]. The next day I call her up and ask her out to dinner, she says yes and said she wanted to go the following day (Monday). She seemed excited and whatever and had me call her even though I saw her about what time to pick her up.

I get her at 8 we have a good date and it went well. Her food was a tad spicy so I texted her later she says "It was ok and she's a baby about it. Thanks I had fun and don't worry!" Well, I made 2 mistakes on the date. 1. I told her that my friend "liked" her, she acted surprised but there is no way she didn't know. 2. I told her one of my friends didn't want me to ask her out but I did it anyway (She already did not like him).

Well, the next night she's at my friends house when I get back with the guy she used to like. She's already drunk and I'm high. I just watch some T.V. then play beer pong with her friend, even though she asked me to play with her. I end up with her friend, she's teammates with the guy who "likes" her.

I had smoked before we started playing beer pong (yet again :() and I mean 2 mins after (and I did ask her and her friends if they wanted to join us) she says that she wants to smoke with me. I tell her to wait a bit. So we played beer pong I won with her friend. Then beat 2 others.

During the game everytime I shot she was squeezing her boobs and pulling up her costume and showing her *** and stomach off. She was really drunk, I dunno if it was b/c I was playing (I got a feeling it was).

During my second game she gets all over my friend who she used to like. She's ALL OVER him and he's just like get away from me. And she wouldn't leave him alone. Well... he goes upstairs I finish the game. And yet again, her and I smoke. She once again sits right up against me and it's cool. We smoke and she goes starts being her insane self. All over the house on the phone. Talking to her ex and other gf's. What a mess she is at this point. I try to talk to her and she acted like she wanted to hang out and just watch TV but she was too drunk.

She ends up passing out in the room of the guy she used to like. He just ignores her and goes to sleep.

I take her friends home. I told them I liked this girl but didn't get her. They say she's crazy. My friends say she's crazy. I think I'm crazy.

I had texted her the day before and told her I'd bring her out on halloween with one of her friends. I took her home the following morning (after she was a mess) and she tells me to call her for tonight, I say "No, you call me" and end it at that. I was so ****ing sick of the idea of being played and her friends saying she's "Psycho" (yes they used that, not crazy). They thought it was cute I liked her but they said to be careful (they didnt say move on).

Well, I haven't talked to her since then. I don't plan on it. I don't know what to do. This girl showed all signs of really liking me. I double texted her that night before I saw her and she was drunk. I lied and said that I texted the wrong person about lunch, b/c I had talked to my friend who doesn't like her and he said don't pursue her. I was high and listened. I'm sure this isn't that big of a deal but you catch my drift.

So I didn't call her or see her last night on halloween. She never called, I left it to her b/c I was questioning if she even had interest in me. I'll probably see her sometime between now and sat. She would know this, she'll be at the party I'll be at friday. So, should I just chill on it? That's what I was thinking, just letting things play out. And let her show that a second date is worth it.

I'm very sorry this is long. I figure it might as well include the details to make worthwhile.

Also, I don't have to explain the usual signs of her showing interest. But she laughs at everything I say (not everything), we have perfect eye contact, she grabs my arm and stuff in a not a move but a sign of affection way, and on and on.


Thanks and I need SUPPORT and ADVICE... [B]I feel played[/B]





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