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okay so im sure this is selfish, but i dont know how to control what i feel. this girl is one of my bestfriends and i cant stand her boyfriend. there is a LIST of things he has does to her and she just continues to give back into him. i know how hard it can be when i put myself in her shoes but this guy is a leech (probably misspelled that). he sucks her in and spits her out over and over. hes even mean to her freakin dog. ive told her how i felt before, and it caused tension between our friendship. i know i cant decide who her boyfriend is, and ive been pretty good at keeping my thoughts to myself. so she doesnt know that i still cant stand him, i mean im sure she does she just hasnt had to hear it. hes a loser and he doesnt even see himself with her in the long run, so i dont understand WHY she stays.

i just wanted to see if maybe anybody had any advice for me and how i can control MYSELF and just ignore the whole situation. its so bad its to the point where i dont even care if her and i speak. like i said I KNOW that its her life and i just need to shut it, but i need to figure out how to stop it from making me so angry. i mean... its not really so much anger.. just annoying i guess. frustrating maybe?

im not sure why it bothers me so much.. possibly because the majority of my girlfriends have dated guys and they always ended up being that "stupid girl".. you know?

ughhh this is so selfish of me. somebody please help :(
i have tried to talk to her... she knows how i feel about him. she just doesnt care i guess. in her eyes, i just need to be happy for her. but whats there to be happy about! hes a jerk! for example, she caught him checking me out...RIGHT IN FRONT OF HER. all she said was "stuart!" when they go to the mall he turns around and looks at girls that walks by. i mean this dude is a dog. she knows how i feel, and she just doesnt want to hear it. shes sitting here in front of me and i dont even want to look at her. i guess im just so fed up you know... she wants me to be her friend and listen to her problems but when its the same crap over and over im just sick of hearing it. maybe this time hes not "such a bad guy" but either way, i still dont like him for the behavior before and i dont think he can change because personally i dont think he can NOR wants to change for her. he told her that he doesnt see himself ever getting married and they have been together for a year... are you kidding me?

the whole thing is just annoying and i dont know what to do. i think she doesnt want to hear my opinion but she wants me to listen to her when she wants to talk about him.
[QUOTE=sillysilly_ goose;3294483]she will have to learn the hard way.. but what do i do about our friendship? its to the point where i dont care to speak to her. shes a great friend when its her & me or all of the girls together. but i cant stand anything to do with her boyfriend. is there anything i can do so he doesnt bother me so much? i think it would be selfish if i just stopped being her friend because of that jerk.[/QUOTE]


well if you don't care to speak to her, then don't.....
sounds like you've lost respect for her.
I've been there.....once I lose respect for someone I don't want them around me anymore......male, female, boyfriend or friend......
[QUOTE=sillysilly_ goose;3294413]okay so im sure this is selfish, but i dont know how to control what i feel. this girl is one of my bestfriends and i cant stand her boyfriend. there is a LIST of things he has does to her and she just continues to give back into him. i know how hard it can be when i put myself in her shoes but this guy is a leech (probably misspelled that). he sucks her in and spits her out over and over. hes even mean to her freakin dog. ive told her how i felt before, and it caused tension between our friendship. i know i cant decide who her boyfriend is, and ive been pretty good at keeping my thoughts to myself. so she doesnt know that i still cant stand him, i mean im sure she does she just hasnt had to hear it. hes a loser and he doesnt even see himself with her in the long run, so i dont understand WHY she stays.

i just wanted to see if maybe anybody had any advice for me and how i can control MYSELF and just ignore the whole situation. its so bad its to the point where i dont even care if her and i speak. like i said I KNOW that its her life and i just need to shut it, but i need to figure out how to stop it from making me so angry. i mean... its not really so much anger.. just annoying i guess. frustrating maybe?

im not sure why it bothers me so much.. possibly because the majority of my girlfriends have dated guys and they always ended up being that "stupid girl".. you know?

ughhh this is so selfish of me. somebody please help :([/QUOTE]


That sounds like alot like my situation or ex situation, i felt like my girlfriends best friend has interfered with our relationship numerous times, and i hated it, her friend seemed to come around during the bad times of our relationship, and even interfered, this is how messed up her friend is, When Natasha was living her in Boston, she is from wv, we'll we lived with my family here, till we could save money, one day she said she wanted to go home, i said id rather have you leave sooner rather than later, She told her friend, who told her mother that i was throwing her out of the house, Now, her friends mother calls my girlfriends father saying, im throwing His daughter out of the house, he called the next morning, talked to my mother saying what is eric doing throwing my daughter out of the house, and my mother was like she is upstairs sleeping, My girlfriends father likes me, and knew i wouldnt do that, but see how that happends, she is the center of attention my ex's is friend, and it sucks alot of people dont like her, Nor does my EX'S father, i mean we would tolerate each other, In fact her friend interfered with the first relationship, Natasha has said numerous times, Sorry, and that she is who she is, well tell her to stay out, she doesnt want to hurt anybody, but in the end it seemed like i was getting hurt more than her friends,... There was another time my buddy emailed my girlfriend saying it would be in your best interest to break up with Eric, he did it as a joke, and her sucky friend emailed her back, saying what does that mean you should break up with Eric, then her friend put ''where was he 6 years ago''... seemed like she would defend her friends more than me, i never hurt natasha in front of any of her friends, i never hurt her ever or said anything or even started a fight....... sux, i truly believe friends have strong say in relationships even thoughs its the person decision
[QUOTE=sillysilly_ goose;3294413]okay so im sure this is selfish, but i dont know how to control what i feel. this girl is one of my bestfriends and i cant stand her boyfriend. there is a LIST of things he has does to her and she just continues to give back into him. i know how hard it can be when i put myself in her shoes but this guy is a leech (probably misspelled that). he sucks her in and spits her out over and over. hes even mean to her freakin dog. ive told her how i felt before, and it caused tension between our friendship. i know i cant decide who her boyfriend is, and ive been pretty good at keeping my thoughts to myself. so she doesnt know that i still cant stand him, i mean im sure she does she just hasnt had to hear it. hes a loser and he doesnt even see himself with her in the long run, so i dont understand WHY she stays.

i just wanted to see if maybe anybody had any advice for me and how i can control MYSELF and just ignore the whole situation. its so bad its to the point where i dont even care if her and i speak. like i said I KNOW that its her life and i just need to shut it, but i need to figure out how to stop it from making me so angry. i mean... its not really so much anger.. just annoying i guess. frustrating maybe?

im not sure why it bothers me so much.. possibly because the majority of my girlfriends have dated guys and they always ended up being that "stupid girl".. you know?

ughhh this is so selfish of me. somebody please help :([/QUOTE]

wow i wish my girlfriend would do that, sheesh, i mean there is a time and a place for friends, but i can see if your friend is dating a jack off like it seems, you know what im saying. because as a friend you feel defensless, but if you interfer just to do it thats a problem, like i said she interfered before the relationship, and even mine thats 2! she is guna keep doing it!





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