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[QUOTE=happymom28;3296939]You can't base your "closure" on that eric. I know it is tough for you, really I do. I have had my heartbroken and done the whole disecting everything bit. But being friends is a BAD idea!!!!!

First of all, you will NEVER be able to just be her friend. Friends mean no romantic feelings, which you clearly still have. Friends date other people. Will you be able to watch her date another guy? Don't fool yourself eric. Nobody in your position with your feelings would be able to do that. It would be pure torture!

I know you need to vent so please keep doing so. Just stop obsessing over the "whys" and praying for her to come back or want to be friends. Focus on how to move on with your life. All of this inner turmoil won't do you any good in the police academy.[/QUOTE]


Like i mentioned in the other post, the day she calls because i know she will about being friends is the day i say im done, and i mentioned the reasons just before this post, trust me i dont want to be her friend, i truly dont, id love to see her happy, its been 4 weeks since i last heard from her, its apparent she can live with out me, So why be friends, you dont need me in your life if you made it this long, but living Ma and her Wv. its makes things easier, i cant bump into those chances, I was thinking the same thing, i dont think she would randomly call and say ''hey'' how are you hope things are going well, oh ya i have a boyfriend, because see i couldnt do the same thing, She might do that but im not so sure, and your right the feelings will never be the same, So just move on, and cross that bridge when i get there, THE POOR GIRL needs support, and thats what hurts the most, really, but i cant handle and worry about that either. But for her to tell people she wants to be my friends? Why? maybe she still cares and wants me in her life, for what ever reason, or else she would never want to be my friend, i think she is letting everything cool off right now, but who knows, it has to be tough on her this break up too, but oh well thanks soo much!
[QUOTE=eric24;3296964]Like i mentioned in the other post, the day she calls because i know she will about being friends is the day i say im done, and i mentioned the reasons just before this post, trust me i dont want to be her friend, i truly dont, id love to see her happy, its been 4 weeks since i last heard from her, its apparent she can live with out me, So why be friends, you dont need me in your life if you made it this long, but living Ma and her Wv. its makes things easier, i cant bump into those chances, I was thinking the same thing, i dont think she would randomly call and say ''hey'' how are you hope things are going well, oh ya i have a boyfriend, because see i couldnt do the same thing, She might do that but im not so sure, and your right the feelings will never be the same, So just move on, and cross that bridge when i get there, THE POOR GIRL needs support, and thats what hurts the most, really, but i cant handle and worry about that either. But for her to tell people she wants to be my friends? Why? maybe she still cares and wants me in her life, for what ever reason, or else she would never want to be my friend, i think she is letting everything cool off right now, but who knows, it has to be tough on her this break up too, but oh well thanks soo much![/QUOTE]

ERIC!!!! You cant wait for her to call you to say "Can we be friends" to be done. It is done NOW. She hasnt called you in a month! Take it for what it is. She may have said she wants to be your friend one day to so and so...but if she really wanted that she would say it to you.

Stop obsessing! If she wants you in her life, she will call, and she HASNT!

Stop worrying about if this is tough on her...she is not a concern of yours anymore. It is one thing to still feel sad...it is another to sit there and question every little thing you hear from others. The only truth will come from her...not what she tells other people that gets back to you. Tell your friends or family...whoever...that you really dont care to hear what she is doing or thinking. She is moving on. If she wasnt, she would be contacting you. The relationship is over. Stop thinking about if she comes back or calls.

I told my brothers and friends...I dont want to hear about my ex or what he says or does. It is not worth it to stress myself out. I know he still loves me and misses me...but I dont care anymore. If we wanted to be together we would be.

Maybe she will realize she screwed up...maybe not....DOESNT MATTER ANYMORE! Move on, heal, focus on YOU, stop asking why or what if or when, and get yourself healthy enough to find someone who actually wants to be with you.

Sorry if that is harsh!!!! I'm not trying to be but really, enough is enough! You are torturing yourself over someone who is moving on like you should be.





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