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Re: Have I Cheated?
Nov 25, 2007
Yes, that's cheating and your girlfriend has every right to know IMHO. I've done a lot of cheating myself, but I'm still an honest person so I at least let the person know I am cheating/have cheated on them so that they can make the decision to stay with me or not. It's the least you can do.
Re: Have I Cheated?
Nov 26, 2007
[QUOTE=GypsyArcher;3321850]Yes, that's cheating and your girlfriend has every right to know IMHO. I've done a lot of cheating myself, but I'm still an honest person so I at least let the person know I am cheating/have cheated on them so that they can make the decision to stay with me or not. It's the least you can do.[/QUOTE]

lol, how noble of you
Re: Have I Cheated?
Nov 26, 2007
I'm 22 and just out of Uni, really struggling with getting back into things and a job that brings in money and is sometimes all systems go and others very easy. My girlfriend saved me though because someone close to me had just died and I do really value her (also I don't actually have more than 2-3 people close to me outside of her). Okay, stupid to post it here, that's true and I think you're all entitled to your opinions but the only one that really annoyed me was GypsyArcher who seems to think that having full sex whilst cheating then telling the other person makes them something to aspire to. Would it really kill you to be a bit easier on me though...if you see my prior posts in other threads you'll know I've had a hard time of the last few years and that I wouldn't do anything to hurt my girlfriend.
Re: Have I Cheated?
Nov 26, 2007
[QUOTE=michael12;3323459]I'm 22 and just out of Uni, really struggling with getting back into things and a job that brings in money and is sometimes all systems go and others very easy. My girlfriend saved me though because someone close to me had just died and I do really value her (also I don't actually have more than 2-3 people close to me outside of her). Okay, stupid to post it here, that's true and I think you're all entitled to your opinions but the only one that really annoyed me was GypsyArcher who seems to think that having full sex whilst cheating then telling the other person makes them something to aspire to. Would it really kill you to be a bit easier on me though...if you see my prior posts in other threads you'll know I've had a hard time of the last few years and that I wouldn't do anything to hurt my girlfriend.[/QUOTE]

Michael, I don't think you're getting sympathy from anyone because quite honestly, you don't deserve it. I did read over some of your other posts, and it seems as though in this situation you are trying to justify your actions because of your depression. But, there is NO justifying cheating, especially when it is your gf's FRIEND! You seem to have some entitlement issues because the way you word things you make it sound as though it was ok for you to cheat. You also seem to have some moral issues as well, because as you said in one of your other posts, you were the "other man" to your friends wife?!? So not only did you mess around on your gf with her friend and screw her over, you also messed with your friends wife, and screwed him. You seem to lack any loyalty for anyone, so it is no surprise you only have a few "close" people. I personally would not want a friend or a boyfriend like you. I don't know what your issues are, but if you really cared about your gf, you would not have done this to her. You are the only one to blame for what you did, and you cannot justify it no matter what you say. You seem to think you are better than everyone around you and can do anything you want to those you are close to. Don't be surprised if you lose EVERYONE who cares about you in a matter of time. If you keep screwing all of your friends over, it's your fault.
Re: Have I Cheated?
Nov 26, 2007
i'd have to agree that depression is no excuse for cheating on your significant other. i have been through some terrible times too where i have been down in the dumps and couldnt care about life. however i would never cheat on my boyfriend. he is the best thing thats ever happened to me and is really supportive. depression is an illness and its a horrible thing to suffer. my advice is to break up with your girlfriend and go and get some help with the depression that you're suffering from. you have to tackle one hurdle before you tackle another and right now i think seeking help and getting better from depression should be your number one prority. you can then find a girlfriend when you are feeling on top of the world again.
Re: Have I Cheated?
Nov 27, 2007
[QUOTE=GypsyArcher;3324673]You may judge me, but I will tell you something that is really funny. I tell guys up front that they may not want to get involved with me because I rotate men, and have a tendency to get around. I need variety. I make no bones about this, but for some strange reason telling that to men somehow makes me MORE attractive to them and they pursue me harder. Recently, I tried deflecting a guy that tried to ask me out on a date and told him half-jokingly that I had a waiting list of men. Later on in the night he comes up to me and asks with deadly seriousness if he can be put on the list.

I don't mean that I get into relationships, cheat, and [I]then [/I]tell the guy that I'm cheating. I warn guys beforehand, I actually tell people all the time not to get involved with me - I'm a party girl, a player, I'm just out for a good time, I've got a wandering eye. I have no idea why that makes me look more attractive to guys, maybe it's the idea of being a challange?

So there is, to me at least, a big difference between warning someone that you are not going to be faithful for long and having a relationship and cheating and keeping it secret. You shouldn't keep secrets, you need to let your partner know what you are doing and have done. It's only fair.[/QUOTE]

Maybe it's because they know you're easy? "Hey, wanna get in a relationship with me, I go with other men all the time though doesn't mean I'm shallow he he just a party girl". They probably pursue you harder because every guy knows they're most likely going to be getting with you. Please have the decency to not question what I did seeing as I've now told my girlfriend and we're on a break for now. You're getting around has probably damaged a lot of people.





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