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Well I have decided to not say anything, actually I did talk to her sister but not completely about what I was feeling. I thought about it a lot and I could never put myself and my feelings before her and her family as I respect them all too much. I guess it’s one of those things that just stays inside a person and I guess, somewhat in your dreams. I think most of the problem I was having, and still am to some extent, was the fact that I see qualities in her sister that I’d want so much in my relationship. They are both very similar so I can see why I would be interested in her sister. In a lot of ways, I still am but as I mentioned, I could never put risking problems with them and their family ahead of my feelings, I’m just that type of guy. I did talk to my girlfriend about some of the issues and unfortunately, it turns into a one sided issue for the most part with no resolve.

For now, I’m not doing anything more, it’s the holiday season and being depressed and feeling all uncertain isn’t ever good, let alone over this time of year.

Thanks to all those that replied, I really do appreciate it. Maybe someday I’ll feel that special feeling truly, maybe even with my current girlfriend, who knows. I can always dream I suppose……
[QUOTE=Bryce S;3354543]Well I have decided to not say anything, actually I did talk to her sister but not completely about what I was feeling. I thought about it a lot and I could never put myself and my feelings before her and her family as I respect them all too much. I guess it’s one of those things that just stays inside a person and I guess, somewhat in your dreams. I think most of the problem I was having, and still am to some extent, was the fact that I see qualities in her sister that I’d want so much in my relationship. They are both very similar so I can see why I would be interested in her sister. In a lot of ways, I still am but as I mentioned, I could never put risking problems with them and their family ahead of my feelings, I’m just that type of guy. I did talk to my girlfriend about some of the issues and unfortunately, it turns into a one sided issue for the most part with no resolve.

For now, I’m not doing anything more, it’s the holiday season and being depressed and feeling all uncertain isn’t ever good, let alone over this time of year.

Thanks to all those that replied, I really do appreciate it. Maybe someday I’ll feel that special feeling truly, maybe even with my current girlfriend, who knows. I can always dream I suppose……[/QUOTE]


Well, I respect your decision, IF you're making it out of a sincere will to do what's best for everyone involved including yourself, and you feel you can truly be happy and satisfied with this decision, and NOT because you're simply afraid to do what must be done in order for you to be truly happy.

I think it's probably wise to let it lie until after the holidays anyway. This time of year is always loaded, so no sense in adding stress for yourself or anyone else. But please, only stay with your girlfriend if you really believe you can love her like you can love no one else. I really don't think you're doing her any favors by staying with her out of guilt, shame or a sense of duty. I know I really wouldn't want a man who only wanted to be with me because he felt he HAD to be for some reason, when his heart really was somewhere else.





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