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This is going to be quite long but I would REALLY appreciate some feedback because I am pretty much at wit's end with this whole situation.

For the past month it seems all my girlfriend and I do is fight. I'll start from the beginning, this is going to be really hard. I started dating her a year ago at the beginning of December. I was the type of guy who always wanted a real relationship and not just a one night stand like pretty much all of my friends. We never started 'dating.' We just came together one day, she kissed me and that was that, we knew we were meant to be together. We had a great time up until the summer when arguments started because her parents never wanted her to come over passed 10 ocklock and never wanted us to go anywhere like camp or anything. I was 19 over the summer and she was 18 so that complicated things big time but we dealt through it.

The fall was normal but it's just this month that's really went down the drain. She was talking about us doing something nice for out one year anniversary but when the time came she didn't want to do anything because she said she was studying. I know it's important but she couldn't even take 10 minutes to walk around the block with me. I wanted to do something nice for her but we didn't see each other and she didn't seem to care that much. We saw each other only once a week for about 5 weeks from the end of november to until she finished school which was hard but it seems that all we did after was fight.

Honestly, we fight now more than we get along. Each time she comes over I know there's going to be a fight. Sometimes she'll say the smallest thing and I'll get angry and I'll want to hurt her. It sounds horrible but the other day she was over at my house and I'm not sure what happened but I was lying on her hair and she was telling me it hurt but I didn't care. I don't want anyone to think I hit her or anything because I never would but that was something odd I couldn't forget. Whenever we fight we just ignore each other because we're both too proud and stubborn. She'll always tell me she wants to go home and that we shouldn't be together cuz we don't get along.

We saw each other 2 days ago and fought once again. We ignored each other and then made up, we always make up, she cries, sometimes I do, then we have a great night. I brought her to a restaurant, we had a good time. Yesterday I didn't see her. Now this morning I was expecting her to call or send me a text message or something but she didn't. I find I'm always the one that has to call to find out what she's doing. I'm always the one who has to ask her when she wants to hang out. She never makes the plans. When I'm sad because we can't see each other for a few days she just replies with 'oh it's just a few days' or 'it's not the end of the world' and I know this but I love her so much I want to see her all the time. This leads me to the conclusion that our goals are very different. I would love to live with her, get a place with her but I know she isn't ready. I am not pressuring her but I do not want to wait forever either. I told myself I wouldn't ask her to come over anymore until she expressed genuine interest to do so on her own.

I just don't know what to do anymore. Even now we're fighting because she took 20 minutes to answer me on an instant messenger. She is staying home today because she can't get to her friend's house but she doesn't even call to ask me for a lift or ask if I wanted to do something. I would have to be the one to ask and I'm getting tired. It makes me feel like she doesn't really care if we see each other or not. She tells me that she loves me more than anytihng and that her life would be void without me but I don't know. Sometimes the feeling of love can be overwhelming. A few years ago I had a girlfriend that I thought was amazing and that I loved and one day poof I stopped caring about her completely and broke her heart.

Another thing that bothers me is that I know I will miss the sex. It's not a rotten thing to say because she says she would too. I don't want to think that the only reason that I'm still with her is to get in her pants because I honestly think it isn't. When we fight it tears me up inside because I know I truly care but I'm tired of all the fighting. It's so ironic that when I was single I craved a relationship but now that I have one I wish I was single. It can be the most wonderful thing in the world sometimes but the worst at other times, and lately it's only been the latter.

Does anyone know what I should do? We always tell each other we won't fight anymore but we keep on fighting. Please help me, I really can't take this anymore. Thanks alot.





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