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This is going to sound a little silly, and as though I am completely over-analyzing, which I AM doing. But I just wanted some opinions on this!

What would you think if somebody told you that it was really nice to see you again, and they hoped they saw you again soon?

Also, is that something you would say just to be polite? Or if you said something like that would you mean it??

I'm not talking about that being said after a date. I know this guy through mutual friends. I have a huuuuuge crush on him. We've never hung out by ourselves, in fact we are not nearly that familiar with each other. We've probably hung out maybe four or five times, always with my ex-boyfriend and/or some other people. I've had a crush on him for years. I've recently started hanging around him more purposefully because I've gone through a string of heartbreaks and dramas and it's nice to be around someone that makes me feel all warm and fuzzy, not to mention my eyeballs thank me and our deeply appreciative for the visual.

See, I'd never actually make a move on this guy. Mostly because he works with my ex-boyfriend. I mean, if we had a brief clandestine affair that would be one thing, but I would not get into a relationship with him. Thing IS, I never once entertained the idea that he could be at all attracted to me. I tend to put men in his profession up on pedestals and view them as gods, while seeing myself as the eternal blushing, giggling schoolgirl.

But then the other night while a bunch of us were parting ways, he said those words to me. Usually we just part with a casual, polite "Goodnight." My head started spinning when he actually said that it was nice to see me and he hoped to see me again soon. I don't know if he was just being nice...but that seemed kind of above and beyond. If he really does enjoy seeing me as much as I do him, why I'd just crap myself LOL

So, what is the consensus here? Do you think he was just being polite, or do you think he MEANT it? Arrrggghhh!
[QUOTE=GypsyArcher;3377264]..

So, what is the consensus here? Do you think he was just being polite, or do you think he MEANT it? Arrrggghhh![/QUOTE]

Before putting my bet on this, I'd like to know what you are expecting from this guy, just to make sure. You say you'd not get into a relationship with him, but an affair would be all right, is that right?

Anyway, my feeling is that he was being polite AND he meant what he said, especially if he looked in your eyes and because he knows you are single now.

My two cents. To say [I]precisely[/I] what is going on in his mind, you'd probably need a crystal ball.

Make yourself [I]available[/I], will you?
[QUOTE]Before putting my bet on this, I'd like to know what you are expecting from this guy, just to make sure. You say you'd not get into a relationship with him, but an affair would be all right, is that right?[/QUOTE]

To be quite honest, before he said that to me, I never for one nanosecond imagined there was any possibility that he had any kind of attraction or interest in me what.so.ever. I never expected ANYTHING from him, actually, he was always just a fantasy for me.

He doesn't know that I am single, actually. My ex-boyfriend still persists in telling people we are still together. And since I still consider him a friend and still hang out with him a lot, it probably does look like there is something between us, although I don't have any kind of romantic feelings for him in the least. But there are way too many perks to knowing him to cut him out of my life, psycho that he is LOL

It's like with this guy I have a crush on...he could do anything at all that he wanted to me, and I wouldn't stop him LOL It just took me by surprise that he said what he did to me. I never would have said something like that to him, even though that's how I feel, for fear of seeming creepy or giving away that I like him.
[QUOTE=GypsyArcher;3377304]...for fear of seeming creepy or giving away that I like him.[/QUOTE]

Gypsy, but does he make you laugh? I remember you were telling in (on?) another thread that a man must make you laugh so you become fond of him. I don't recall your exact words, though.

You come across to me as a very resolute person. What have you got to lose if you let on about your "crush" on him?
Haha, yeah he does make me laugh. He's so cute *gush*

It's like, imagine one of your favorite celebrities that you have a massive crush on. Imagine that you actually got the chance to hang around them, and be accepted into their inner circle. You're busy being all googly-eyed over them and then THEY tell YOU that they liked seeing you and hope to see you again.

Oh man, I would never want him to know about my crush, although I have no ideaif either my ex said anything to him or if he notices that I stare at him all the time with what must be a slack-jawed expression on my face. I never matured past thirteen, I swear.
Not sure. hang out again and see what happens. It could just be a polite jesture...................don't get all crazy over it. He is friends with your ex and that is a line he may not ever cross.





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