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For those of you who may remember I posted about an old friend of mine of whom I found out got engaged to a girl who I never met. It turns out that she does not like me due to a conversation she overheard of him telling his cousin about how he will always have feelings for me but he would settle with being my friend because I am married and happy. Anyway, I told him I would no longer be calling/emailing him because I wanted to respect his fiance's feelings. I have held up my end of the bargain.

Now that you have the background here is what happened today. I got on my computer to check my email because I am waiting to get something from the realtor. There is a message from "John's" work email. Here it is:

[I]Hi "Sarah",

I have been thinking alot about things in the past week. The thing I keep coming back to is that I think I am still in love with you. I know I screwed up all that time ago and I know that's why you broke up with me the second time around. I wish I could go back and change things but I can't.

I'm sorry, but you are married to the wrong guy and I am engaged to the wrong girl. There, I said it. We can't change any of that now, but why can't we still have something? I need to have you in my life, even if it is only that little bit. There are so many people who have other relationships. We are the ones that belong together. I'll settle for anything I can get

I tried to respect the no contact thing but I can't. I can't accept that you will no longer be a part of my life. Please call me. I will be at work until 3.

Love,
"John"[/I]

:mad::mad::mad:

So needless to say I am livid! Had I of known this was his feelings I wouldn't have even bothered to remain friends with him over the years. That just showed such disrespect to me, my husband, and my marriage, not to even mention his poor unsuspecting fiance!

I replied back calling him a few not so nice names. I also blocked all of his email address from my account, something I should have done last week.

Anyway, I just had to share that. All I was trying to do was do the right thing by him and his fiance and then he basically says "lets have an affair". What is wrong with people? After 11 years you would think you know someone!
[QUOTE=happymom28;3387170]For those of you who may remember I posted about an old friend of mine of whom I found out got engaged to a girl who I never met. It turns out that she does not like me due to a conversation she overheard of him telling his cousin about how he will always have feelings for me but he would settle with being my friend because I am married and happy. Anyway, I told him I would no longer be calling/emailing him because I wanted to respect his fiance's feelings. I have held up my end of the bargain.

Now that you have the background here is what happened today. I got on my computer to check my email because I am waiting to get something from the realtor. There is a message from "John's" work email. Here it is:

[I]Hi "Sarah",

I have been thinking alot about things in the past week. The thing I keep coming back to is that I think I am still in love with you. I know I screwed up all that time ago and I know that's why you broke up with me the second time around. I wish I could go back and change things but I can't.

I'm sorry, but you are married to the wrong guy and I am engaged to the wrong girl. There, I said it. We can't change any of that now, but why can't we still have something? I need to have you in my life, even if it is only that little bit. There are so many people who have other relationships. We are the ones that belong together. I'll settle for anything I can get

I tried to respect the no contact thing but I can't. I can't accept that you will no longer be a part of my life. Please call me. I will be at work until 3.

Love,
"John"[/I]

:mad::mad::mad:

So needless to say I am livid! Had I of known this was his feelings I wouldn't have even bothered to remain friends with him over the years. That just showed such disrespect to me, my husband, and my marriage, not to even mention his poor unsuspecting fiance!

I replied back calling him a few not so nice names. I also blocked all of his email address from my account, something I should have done last week.

Anyway, I just had to share that. All I was trying to do was do the right thing by him and his fiance and then he basically says "lets have an affair". What is wrong with people? After 11 years you would think you know someone![/QUOTE]

Wow! He's crazy. And there is something HE can do which is not marry this poor woman who is so "wrong" for him, and also move on from you. I would have told him that maybe he thinks your marriage is wrong, but you know it is right, are happier than you ever dreamt of being and he is the last person you would ever think is right for you.

Gross. Some guys are so deluded!!!! Good move blocking the emails and responding with what you responded with. He is very disrespectful!





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