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I Am Not Yelling(all Caps) I See This Better...sorry..nowi Need Advice Desperatley In Fact...i Am A 42 Year Old Woman Married To A Bipolar/abusuve In Every Sense Of The Word Husband...from The Last Abusive Episode On Me And My 18 Year Old Daughter..which Resulted In An Ambulance I Have Left And Have Filed For A Mom Hates Him Ofcourse And Says If I Let Him Come Back This Time She Will Never Speak To Me Daughter Says The It Has Been Almost 3 Months Now...separated That Question Is...i Still Love Him Very Much We Have A 9 Year Old Daughter Together And He Uses Her In Desperation To Get Me Back...he Does Not Work At The Moment As He Has Hired A Lawyer For His Ssi/ssd Case...we Have Been Together 11 Years And It Is Very Hard For Me To Let Go..especially When I Know He Is Sick And Has No One Head Says To Leave Him Be And Let Him Figure It Out..but When He Is Crying And Upset On The Phone My Heart Tells Me Day He Loves Me And Cannot Live Without Me And The Next If I Dont Comply With What He Wants At The Time...he Hates Me Again...i Could Go On And On About The Scenarios He Has Put Me Through With The Distrust,accusations, Verbal Abuse When Hes Not Satisfied ..but I Wont ..he Doesnt Help Me With Child Support I Work 6 Days A Week To Take Care Of Me And My Daughter And Took cAre Of Him For 2 While He Laid On tHe Couch And Ate Till I Got Home And He Immediately Found Eveything I Had Not Done Right..and The Arguments Started Again Yet One More Day...please Help Me With I The Sick One That Is Even Considering The Fact Of Letting Him Come Home? Or Should I Finally Just Let Go? Thank You For Any Help...i Am Litterally Going Nuts Here...i Am Consumed With This Daily!!!!!
Hi Cindy:

First off I feel for you.

I hope this helps but I also know how frustrationg it can be
Good luck

People on this site are really nice I hope others will help with advice or just to sympathise with you.
Maybe you don't care enough about yourself, which is okay, because you are only hurting you. But your child has said that she won't speak to you if you allow him to come home. Can you find strength in trying to do the right thing for your daughter? No child should have to grow up in the conditions you described. Is it worth it to you?

From what you wrote, I can't see one redeeming quality in this man. What exactly do you love about him? I think you should find a support group for this, as I'm sure one exists. Start talking to people who are going through a similar thing. You need support right now. Your mother sounds like she will support you emotionally if you don't continue to take him back. That's more than some people have.
All of the confusion he is causing you is manipulation. He is a sick man and he needs help, but you will never ever be able to make him see that. In his world he is right and everyone else is wrong. You have just lived in it for so long that you believe it.

The most important thing now is you and your children. Let him worry about him. Believe me, he will be fine. They always are. You need to do what is best for you and your girls.

I really feel for you cyndi62765. I couldn't imagine having stayed with my abusive ex for that long. I think you should seek some therapy and start to rebuild your self esteem. You are a beautiful person and deserve soooooo much more than what this man has to offer. It will get easier for you, but it is going to take time. :angel:
do what you have to do to get away from him......your life will be much better.
I agree with the others. Think of all the abuse he's put you and your children through!
When you say you still love him, I believe you honestly do. I'm thinking though it's more on the lines of loving him; [I]caring[/I] about what happens. I wouldn't think you'd be [I]in[/I] love with him after all that's he's done. They are two completely different types of love.
For your sake and safety, leave him be. Sounds like you have a great start, stick with it. You may be scared, but isn't it fear that keeps us from taking the first leap no matter what we are doing?
thank you so much for your reply and concern....i am a very smart person usually excecpt when it come from the matters of the heart...i am going to keep going one day at a has gotten easier then he calls...and the heartache starts all over again...i wish i had the time and the money for counseling for myself and my children but i just takes everything i have just to make it these days....if you happen to be a praying person..please remember me in your prayers as i will to for you...God bless and thanks again....
thanks have hit the nail right on the head with your response...these replies have really helped me on this site...i need this type of support i think...and thanks to all of you....keep me in your daily prayers that i always do the right thing and once and for all let him go and move on with my life..its a daily struggle for me....have beautiful day!!!!!!!!

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