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Hello everyone! This is probably really stupid, but I guess i'm mostly writing this to vent! Growing up my parents were overly strict with me. I wasn’t allowed to watch pg-13 movies when I was well over 13. My mom would always say “what is 13 some magic number?” I wasn’t allowed to go to dances, and I couldn’t date. This was how it was all threw highschool. There’s more, but for the sake of keeping this short, I won’t go into detail. Since my parents were so restrictive, my friends didn’t call me do hang out since they new I could never do anything. I found myself sinking into a depression that lasted from about 7th grade through 12th grade.

Here is the thing. My youngest sister is 12 years younger than I am. All through high school I helped my parents out by babysitting her. I felt like I had to take on a mature role. I always kept my room clean and did my own laundry. My brother doesn’t do any of that, and he doesn’t have to tell my parents where he is going or what time he will be back. He doesn’t have a curfew. When I was 19 which is the same age as my brother, I was out at a restaurant with my friend and one guy friend. It was 10pm and it wasn’t a school night. Well, my mom searched for me until she found me (I’m from a small town) and she told me that I had to go home. I know my dad was behind that one. When I was 22 I was still living at home. By this time I had a boyfriend, but I never really felt like I could bring him over or anything. My mom told me that If I started paying her rent, she would ease up a little and let me stay out later. Well, the first night that I stayed out late, guess who was waiting up for me? My mom. She told me that she thought she could handle it, but just couldn't!

Its hard because my parents always told me that if I acted more mature, they would treat me like an adult. But this just isn’t true. I was never really immature. I never caused any kind of trouble. I have read that when parents are too overly protective of their children it causes the child to become neurotic. Especially with all the mixed signals…They tell the child that if they are mature, they will have more freedom, but when the child complies, they don’t give said freedoms.

I feel that my youngest sister is way more immature and spoiled than I ever was, and she was allowed to see pg-13 movies when she was 12. When I was 14 I wanted to rent the movie My Girl 2, which is rated PG by the way, and my mom wouldn’t let me because it insinuates that a man and a woman are living together before they are married. My parents have really loosened up since I was younger.

I’m happy that my brother and sister have so much more freedom than I do, but at the same time I can’t help being sad and feeling like I missed out on so much because I was the oldest child! It especially hurts that my dad still tells me that I am immature and naive anytime that I disagree with him about anything. In fact I still help my parents out with my little sister by giving her rides places whenever they can’t. I feel that since my parents were so strict and I couldn’t do the same things that normal kids my age and way younger could, that that really contributed to my depression and the fact that they don’t take me seriously if I ever say anything about it really bothers me. My dad just says "Yeah right." and toatlly dismisses my feelings altogether and denies ever being so strict with me..... not that i bring it up often, just the few times I ever mentioned anything this is what he said.

I know that I should be over this since I thankfully have my own place and I am old enough where this shouldn’t bother me anymore, but my parents invite me over all the time, and when I go over there, I feel like they don’t take me seriously and they treat me like a child. If I was still living there today, I would have a curfew and my brother wouldn’t. You know I’m an adult. I should be able to make my own choices and it is just ridiculous that they can’t handle that. Anyway, am I being immature by letting this still bother me? Or do you think that I have a right to be annoyed by this? It’s not just all in the past. They still treat me like I am a child. My mom isn’t so bad anymore, it is mainly my dad.

Well, this whiney rant has gone on long enough. Anyone else out there have to deal with over protective parents? How do I let go of the anger, hurt, and resentmet. And Because my parents are so strict, i've never really felt that I could talk to them about anything. And that is kind of sad.

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