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I think you should get back together with him. I don't think that it will work out (actually, I think it will be a disaster) but I think you need to get back together with him and beat this to death. After awhile of you torturing eachother, you will eventually not love eachother, or hate eachother, or feel anything...you will just be done and then you can finally end all this. I have read your posts for a long time...in fact, something was very interesting to me. I first started looking on this site because I was board at my old job, where I spent a lot of time sitting in front of a computer with not a lot to do. I remember reading your posts about the exact same situation. Since that time, I have gotten married, changed jobs and moved across the United States. You are still doing the same thing with the same result. So, get back together with him and don't break up. If he says he wants to breakup (once you're back together) tell him he can't break up with you and continue to hound him to stay together. Torture each other and yourself. I realise this post sounds sarcastic, but it's really not. Neither of you can be with anyone else until you work out yourselves in this relationship. He wants to keep trying because he's getting a great ego boost about calling all the shots, you want to keep trying because you don't think you have the power to stop it. Until you both get over that crap, you won't be able to move on to another relationship. So, get back together, work out your issues (ei. torture each other) and try not to physically kill each other in the process. I know I sound like a condescending ***** with this post, but I've actually done something very similar in the past with one of my exes. We are no longer together, don't feel anything for each other, and are better people with our new partners. And I gotta say, you're one of the only people I ever respond to on this board (not that I'm here that often) and it's because you absolutely just break my heart. Good luck honey, you deserve better than what you're doing to yourself.
[QUOTE=hllspawn;3414894]I think you should get back together with him. I don't think that it will work out (actually, I think it will be a disaster) but I think you need to get back together with him and beat this to death. After awhile of you torturing eachother, you will eventually not love eachother, or hate eachother, or feel anything...you will just be done and then you can finally end all this. I have read your posts for a long time...in fact, something was very interesting to me. I first started looking on this site because I was board at my old job, where I spent a lot of time sitting in front of a computer with not a lot to do. I remember reading your posts about the exact same situation. Since that time, I have gotten married, changed jobs and moved across the United States. You are still doing the same thing with the same result. So, get back together with him and don't break up. If he says he wants to breakup (once you're back together) tell him he can't break up with you and continue to hound him to stay together. Torture each other and yourself. I realise this post sounds sarcastic, but it's really not. Neither of you can be with anyone else until you work out yourselves in this relationship. He wants to keep trying because he's getting a great ego boost about calling all the shots, you want to keep trying because you don't think you have the power to stop it. Until you both get over that crap, you won't be able to move on to another relationship. So, get back together, work out your issues (ei. torture each other) and try not to physically kill each other in the process. I know I sound like a condescending ***** with this post, but I've actually done something very similar in the past with one of my exes. We are no longer together, don't feel anything for each other, and are better people with our new partners. And I gotta say, you're one of the only people I ever respond to on this board (not that I'm here that often) and it's because you absolutely just break my heart. Good luck honey, you deserve better than what you're doing to yourself.[/QUOTE]


wow thanks for posting then!

happy, dma, ahh i know you're all right!!!! i know it i know it. just can't feel any different.

i'm like a moth to a flame and i know we all have free will in this world, but it is like i have lost mine.

he has suggested meeting up, he has called me twice. shall i suggest meeting up because i can't stand the wait. i don't even know if he wants to get back together.

how can this go anywhere?i don't know.
then i go back to the relationship, and yes things werer eally bad, but at times i don't blame him for walking away because things were crazy.
maybe things would be different if we let go of the past because that was always the problem with us.???





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