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If you havent' already gotten checked, you should really get a full STD panel done and just check for everything. I think that needs to be your first priority. You don't know if this was just a one-time thing or if she's been with other guys. I think that once you have your own health situation in control, you can focus on other stuff.

Having said that, I think it's just a question of common sense. Do you really want to even consider putting yourself in a position to be with someone who you know for sure has herpes? I can't imagine why anyone in their right mind would voluntarily do that in this situation.

Are you actually considering getting back together with her? I mean, as the previous poster said, getting back together with a cheater is bad enough, but getting with someone who not only cheated but caught a permanent STD, that's just insanity. It's not even sane. I hope you're not asking this question because you want to get back with her. That would be the worst mistake you could possibly make. And I think you probably know that. So, just consider the dire consequences, and make your decision.
[I]"Can anyone think of a reason why you could take someone back that did this to you?"[/I]

Some reasons that some people give cheaters a second chances are because they love them and think they're worth working through it, they're dumb and blinded by emotions, they're rather be with anyone then be single.

Everyone situation is different. I believe there are the rare occasions where a person can make a big mistake and learn from it and never repeat that mistake again.... and there are people that are just selfish and will always only want what they can get and repeatedly cheat.

It really depends, I think, if you believe the person when they beg and plead for your forgiveness.. and it depends on if you think they're worth all the stress, and heartache that will come with continuing a relationship with that person. Bottom line.. you will mostly never trust them again... and the real question is, [B]can you honestly have a valuable relationship without trust?[/B]

I think in this case... you need to let her go. It might be different if she just made out with some guy... but she had sex with him, and now has an STD.. which is just one of the consequences that came from her actions.

How long were you two dating? If it was a short while, then I say just walk away. If it was a signifcant relationship, then you need to ask yourself if you can look at her everyday and not see what she did. If you can't... the move on.
[QUOTE=jen52983;3457902][I]"Can anyone think of a reason why you could take someone back that did this to you?"[/I]

Some reasons that some people give cheaters a second chances are because they love them and think they're worth working through it, they're dumb and blinded by emotions, they're rather be with anyone then be single.

Everyone situation is different. I believe there are the rare occasions where a person can make a big mistake and learn from it and never repeat that mistake again.... and there are people that are just selfish and will always only want what they can get and repeatedly cheat.

It really depends, I think, if you believe the person when they beg and plead for your forgiveness.. and it depends on if you think they're worth all the stress, and heartache that will come with continuing a relationship with that person. Bottom line.. you will mostly never trust them again... and the real question is, [B]can you honestly have a valuable relationship without trust?[/B]

I think in this case... you need to let her go. It might be different if she just made out with some guy... but she had sex with him, and now has an STD.. which is just one of the consequences that came from her actions.

How long were you two dating? If it was a short while, then I say just walk away. If it was a signifcant relationship, then you need to ask yourself if you can look at her everyday and not see what she did. If you can't... the move on.[/QUOTE]
Thank you very much. To answer your question, we only dated for just under 2 months. In that two months, we were together every day because we were neighbors. That's probably one of the hardest things about this is that I have to see her occasionally when we run into each other in the complex, otherwise, I would be done. Thanks again for your honesty and you are absolutely right.





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