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Re: I see no light.
Mar 28, 2008
[QUOTE=happymom28;3506801]I know you don't. Breakups are hard no matter what the circumstances.

You are in the phase right now where "something is better than nothing". He is trying to be your "friend" so he doesn't look like the bad guy that broke your heart. That is why he keeps suggesting you go out to dinner or whatever. The truth of the matter is that he has no intention of doing these things he suggests otherwise he would have by now. The lines of being busy are just excuses. When you really want to see someone you make the time and the effort. You know what I mean?

You are picking at a scab right now. The more you pick at a scab the longer it takes for it to heal because you keep reopening the same old wound. The best approach is to leave it alone and allow it time to heal. I think eventually you will get to that point where you know that you can't be friends with him if you are ever going to be able to move on. Unfortunately it is something you have to do for yourself.[/QUOTE]

He hasn't even returned my call from a few hours ago.

Either he is pretending to be my friend, or he is keeping me as a back up. Neither do I want.

Shame he can't even give me friendship.

Makes me feel even worse. He doesn't want me as his girlfriend or even a friend.

I'm so tempted, at times, to tell him how I feel, to hear an answer (it'll be the same no doubt), to be able to move on.

But hey, I tried for months and months. I got my answer months ago, why do I need more answers.

It was so much easier to let go last time because we both seemed to move on pretty quick, I started dating, and so did he. I never thought I'd see him ever again.

I don't know how to let go.

When I deactivated the account, I promised myself I wouldn't speak to him for two/ three months until my Phd is completed. Then if I still felt the same (which I was hoping I wouldn't), I would let myself contact him.

But that didn't happen because after that, he called me, and suggested meeting up again etc.

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