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Sorry, I haven't been posting in a few days the charger to my laptop blew out, and I have to travel to a local library to get on the internet.

[B]lostsoul, janet, and nogood[/B], I wish we all lived in the same area. It would be fun if I could be around ppl who were in similar situations like me.

I USED to have friends back when I was 18, 19, 20, but we grew apart. all of them were not due to fights or anything, in some cases our lives took different paths and we no longer had similar things in common.

I had one friend who I hung out with on a consistent basis for about 4 or 5 years. I used to hop in my car, pick her up and we'd just burn gas just driving around the city. Or meet guys and get into a little drama. It was fun. Then she made a friend at her college--it was a guy--and our friendship pretty much deteriorating when he came into the picture. Honestly, when I think back, I feel that HE is the reason why our friendship made the turn that it did. And I am starting to feel a bit of bitterness after the fact. Before, we had NO conflict and if we did, we would settle it and everything would be fine.

This "guy friend" eventually became friends with me as well. And he would tell me that my best friend was talking about me behind my back. When I would ask him, what exactly she said, he would go "nevermind, forget about it". For the longest, this would linger in the back of my mind, I wanted to know if she truly had said mean things about me. One day I called her, and confronted her about it and the conversation got real heated and UGLY. Of course she denied it. And she prompted to call the "guy friend"--but I did not want to talk to him, I wanted to discuss this with HER. Well, in the midst of the conversation she emailed him to call her, and soon enough he did. Before she clicked over she told me she would "call me back" and I have not heard from her in over 5 or 6 months.

I was hurt because I felt that she let this "guy friend" come in between us. We had been friends since elementary and high school and she let this 'guy friend' who she had only known for 2 or 3 years manipulate our friendship. He probably persuaded her to think that I was a bad person or was in the wrong, and told her not to ever call me again. Ironically, I stayed cool with the "guy friend" and he stayed in contact with the both of us. Over time, I cut him out of my life as well. I just had this intuition that he was bad luck and wanted to bring misery in my life.

So this leads me to my current situation..no friends..no active social life..no boyfriend no nothing. I often wonder if it were best that I should have just not said anything about it at all..just ignored what he was saying and not let it get to me..I am not sure if I made the right decision. Sometimes I think that if I had never confronted her, I would have still had a friend till this day.
[QUOTE=JennyLee123;3565918]Sorry, I haven't been posting in a few days the charger to my laptop blew out, and I have to travel to a local library to get on the internet.

[B]lostsoul, janet, and nogood[/B], I wish we all lived in the same area. It would be fun if I could be around ppl who were in similar situations like me.

I USED to have friends back when I was 18, 19, 20, but we grew apart. all of them were not due to fights or anything, in some cases our lives took different paths and we no longer had similar things in common.

I had one friend who I hung out with on a consistent basis for about 4 or 5 years. I used to hop in my car, pick her up and we'd just burn gas just driving around the city. Or meet guys and get into a little drama. It was fun. Then she made a friend at her college--it was a guy--and our friendship pretty much deteriorating when he came into the picture. Honestly, when I think back, I feel that HE is the reason why our friendship made the turn that it did. And I am starting to feel a bit of bitterness after the fact. Before, we had NO conflict and if we did, we would settle it and everything would be fine.

This "guy friend" eventually became friends with me as well. And he would tell me that my best friend was talking about me behind my back. When I would ask him, what exactly she said, he would go "nevermind, forget about it". For the longest, this would linger in the back of my mind, I wanted to know if she truly had said mean things about me. One day I called her, and confronted her about it and the conversation got real heated and UGLY. Of course she denied it. And she prompted to call the "guy friend"--but I did not want to talk to him, I wanted to discuss this with HER. Well, in the midst of the conversation she emailed him to call her, and soon enough he did. Before she clicked over she told me she would "call me back" and I have not heard from her in over 5 or 6 months.

I was hurt because I felt that she let this "guy friend" come in between us. We had been friends since elementary and high school and she let this 'guy friend' who she had only known for 2 or 3 years manipulate our friendship. He probably persuaded her to think that I was a bad person or was in the wrong, and told her not to ever call me again. Ironically, I stayed cool with the "guy friend" and he stayed in contact with the both of us. Over time, I cut him out of my life as well. I just had this intuition that he was bad luck and wanted to bring misery in my life.

So this leads me to my current situation..no friends..no active social life..no boyfriend no nothing. I often wonder if it were best that I should have just not said anything about it at all..just ignored what he was saying and not let it get to me..I am not sure if I made the right decision. Sometimes I think that if I had never confronted her, I would have still had a friend till this day.[/QUOTE]


A few pages ago I listed some suggestions on how to make new friends, such as inviting a co-worker to coffee or lunch. I think building a base of friends is a great way to get back into a social life. The guys will follow, since everyone knows a single guy somewhere who might be interested in meeting a new girl. Getting together with one friend often leads to making a whole group of friends. And don't be afraid to approach a really outgoing person for friendships, these people usually have a big network of friends & family, which will be a built-in group of people for you to meet. My 3 best friends all moved out of state at the same time, leaving me alone here! But I got involved in activities (sports) which led me to meeting a slew of new people and I have some new great friends and am having a blast with them. Please remember friends are about having fun and having someone to vent to, go out there, meet some people and good luck!





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