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[QUOTE=Kszan;3563136]You're SO young, you're really way too young to think your entire life has been a waste. I still think you're putting far too much emphasis on a relationship to define your happiness, when that's not what a relationship is about at all. If you go into a relationship with that mindset, you're going to end up being disappointed because you're supposed to be comfortable within your own self first and just have a relationship to compliment who you are, not to Make you who you are.

Far too many people define themselves by their relationship. And they are the ones who end up totally devastated and at a complete and total loss when that relationship ends because they have no idea who they are or what they should be doing with themselves.

Jealousy is a normal human emotion that people experience when they see other people having something that they want. I'm really not sure how you can get through that. But it all goes back to what I just said in the first paragraph. Stop putting your happiness in the hands of another person. That never works, not for anyone. It's time for you to stop believing that another person is going to make you happy. That's the surest way to end up with a broken heart in the end.

It's time for you to start doing more things to enhance your life. Get your life in order so that once someone comes along, you'll be all set and you guys can be equals instead of him having to take care of you. With accomplishments come confidence and a feeling of self-worth that can't be measured. And it's something that you can never feel just from a relationship.[/QUOTE]

I don't know why I feel this way. It's something that I have been working on..trying to change my mindset but it's so hard for me.

My mother and father do not think I am normal...I am quiet, and not very extroverted, kinda laid back. They always tell me that I should have a boyfriend, go out more, have more friends..then if I do that they'll tell me that I need to get my priorities straight by finishing college and becoming more independent. There is only so much I can do at a time. I feel confused.

Once at work, this guy told me that i was not like most 20-somethings he said that a lot of them would not be 'working' and they would be hanging out, always talking on their cell phone..and he never saw me do any of that. It made me feel insecure about who I was. Like I'm not "cool" or don't have the right personality.

My mom is always reminding me of how I am getting older, and that I haven't done enough in such a short span in my life. She makes me feel as though I am wasting my 20s I haven't partied enough, or accomplished enough in my life to truly enjoy this period in my life. I am always under this pressure to do what 20 somethings are supposed to do.

I get so depressed because I don't have friends anymore to go out to a bar or club. Like I stated earlier, many women (in my age group) do not warm up to me...they might strike up a conversation or something but they defintely will not invite me to hang out with them..Even when I try to be nice and friendly they just don't like me. The only women I get along with the most are older women but unfortunately, they don't want to go out clubbing and mingling with young guys..

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