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[QUOTE=leelee04;3590824]Well about 6 months ago my boyfriend of 7 years cheated on me. I have wrote other post on here about it. We are broken up and live separate from each other but we still talk everyday. He keeps telling me how sorry he is and he made a huge mistake and he wants to get back together..[/QUOTE]

Then why was this other woman ever in the picture more than just a one night stand that "didn't mean anything?"

[QUOTE=leelee04;3590824]He told me that he never intended to hurt me the way he did, then why did you cheat on me?? .[/QUOTE]

Good question, and one that deserves an answer. IF he "didn't mean to hurt you, " what did he think his sticking his woohoo inside another woman would do to you?

[QUOTE=leelee04;3590824]He was dating that girl that he cheated on me with, but they have recently broke up. She is still obsessed with him and trying everything she can to make me go away. .[/QUOTE]

She's not the issue or the problem here. I'd actually even be willing to bet money that she's not "obsessed" with him. 9 time sout of 10, these so-called "psycho bunny boiling bi-atches who can't get over it and move on" are just women who were lied to and hurt in some way and just want answers and closure of some kind. She might not even know "they broke up." You don't really know just what he told her or what goes on between them when you are not around. And she can't make you go away, she can't do anything that HE doesn't ALLOW her to do. She's still in the picture because he's allowing it. The question is, WHY is he allowing it? That's another good question that deserves an answer.

[QUOTE=leelee04;3590824]We have gone on a few dates and it feel like old times again, but then he takes me home and lonliness creeps in and I start crying. This Friday I am moving back to my home state in NJ which is about 1,000 miles away from where I am now. (Florida) I feel like I made a mistake. What if we can work it out. Now I will never know because I decided to leave. I just cant take this pain anymore. I miss him and I miss us so bad. He says he does too, and he doesnt want me to leave. I still love him so much. He asked me if me going to NJ was the end of us forever and I said no. But how can it not be. I'm not going to be able to trust him after what happened when I am 1,000 miles away. My whole family says that I need to move on and forget about him. But its not that easy. I love him and he says he loves me. Shouldnt two people that have a love so strong for each other try to work things out instead of being apart and miserable for the rest of their lives. I dont want to be that person that can never get over their first love 20 years from now. That wont be fair to me or to any guy I may be with at the time. I need help.[/QUOTE]

No, it sucks to be that girl, 20 years later and still pining for your first love. In a way, I'm that girl. It's been over 10 years for me, and I'm still not over my first and only love, probably will never be. much as you don't want to be that girl, you don't want to be the girl who wasted her life on a lying, cheating jerk who never really treated her right, either. It sucks just as badly, if not more, to be that girl. I think the mistake you made was that you never broke contact with him and you never gave yourself a chance to heal.

Are there other reasons why you are moving back to Jersey, other than just to get away from him and all that happened? What's in Jersey for you as opposed to what's in Florida for you? If there are good, solid, positive reasons to move to Jersey, you certainly don't want to give those up for such a shady "maybe" with this guy who can't even get the woman he cheated on you with out of his life.

In the end, you're the one who will have to live with the consequences of this decision, so it has to be yours, and it's a tough one, I'll give you that. Since none of us has a crystal ball and can see how things will turn out either way, all we can do is weigh the pros and cons, think it through carefully, weigh our priorities and the risks, and do what's best for ourselves at the time. Think long and hard on this and make sure you put your future and what's best for you first. Good luck.

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