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I want to say maybe a month ago my girlfriend (19) wanted to break up with me (21) after 6 months because I asked her to go down on me after she said no a couple other times (over the course of a few weeks). [COLOR="Red"]{removed} [/COLOR]Well, she ended up forgiving me, and to be honest since then things have been getting better and better every day. Right now I would say were at a high point in our relationship since we met.

We started to actually communicate with each other, with a little coaxing by her sister. We got all our problems out on the table and straightened them all out...or so I thought.

This could get very long, so I'll try to shorten it as much as possible.

She goes to a different school than me which ran about a month longer than mine did, while she was in school she didn't have a whole lot of time for me because of studying and stuff. And lives with her parents, which still kinda keep a short leash on her for someone her age. But I suppose they have a right to since she does live at home. Now my problem lies in the amount of time I get to spend with her, and another woman.

One of our problems that we talked out was the amount of time we get to spend together, its not very much. When I do see her I never get to spend the entire day with her. Literally every date i've been on with her has either went like "go to eat, go home" or "go see a movie, then go home". Partly because of her parents and partly because of her school work she's never spent the whole day with me. I told her I want to spend more than a couple hours at a time with her, but all she ever seems to say is "well see" or "maybe" or "I don't think my parents would let me do that". Sometimes I just wish she would lie to her parents (I'm not asking her to) or something just so I can spend more than 2 hours with her. And now that schools out for both of us, nothing seems to be changing. Tomorrow I'm going to see her from 12-3 before I have to leave for work. I'd like to take her downtown, but all she wants to do is see a movie because she feels like she'd be lying to her parents if she did.

Now this second problem crosses with the first. A girl we both worked with comes down every summer to stay at home while schools out. Me and her became friends, but my girlfriend doesn't like her because someone told her that this other girl was just after me in order to spite my girlfriend. I have no idea how true this is, and as far as I can tell its false. I haven't sensed that this other girl is after me. Since my girlfriend can't do things with me at the spur of the moment and never for more than a few hours at a time, I do end up wanting to hang out with this other girl as a friend only. I don't have very many friends where I live. Literally theres my girlfriend, and another guy I work with. Those are my only two friends, but both of them live about a half hour drive away, so when I have free time I can't exactly just get up and go all the way out there to see them. This other girl lives right down the street. I'm getting really lonely sometimes, and I feel like I should be able to hang out with this girl just as a friend. I feel like its unfair to me that I have to sit at home because my girlfriend can't do anything when I have free time.

I really don't know what to do. I can't sit at home and wait for my girlfriend all the time. I feel like I should be able to make a new friend especially if they live so close. But my girlfriend doesn't like the idea of me hanging out with this other girl even though she hangs out with her guy friends all the time (which i'm completely comfortable with. I trust her). She told me she was going to let me make my own decision about it even though she wouldn't be comfortable if I were to see this other girl, and she does feel bad that I can't openly make a new friend. I don't know what to do, I'm tired of sitting in the house all day when my girlfriend can't do anything.

I'm sorry if this seemed like I didn't quite explain everything clearly about whats going on. Its really late here and I'm tired, but I needed to write this to get it off my chest.
[QUOTE=Giant_Squid;3615131]I don't remember if I made this clear earlier, but my gf knew this girl way before I ever did. She didn't like this other girl way before she even knew me. Before she didn't really have much of a good reason to not like this girl, but I guess recently she's found a good reason. According to my gf sister, this other girl is only wanting to hang out with me in order to "hook up" with me just to get at my gf. I kinda doubt the truth to this since I haven't detected anything from this other girl that says thats her intentions. But now my gf is saying things like "While I won't be comfortable or happy with it, I'm not telling you, you can't hang out with her" or "How would you like it if I were to hang out with some guy you knew was just trying to get in my pants" or "I'm just going to have to let you choose on your own, let you decide if its worth it or not" (as if shes going to break up with me if I do see the other girl)[/QUOTE]

I don't know if you did mention it or if I overlooked that part. Knowing that it does change things a little bit.

First of all, if this girls intentions were in fact to come between you and your girlfriend she wouldn't come out and tell you that, you know? She would actually act the complete opposite so you start to trust her. Next thing you know you open up to her about how your girlfriend is insecure about your friendship. Then, she starts offering you advice and gives a shoulder to cry on. From there you may be able to figure out what could happen.

How does your girlfriend's sister know this? Is she fairly reliable with this sort of thing? With this information I can see your girlfriend's point. Can I give you a story from my own experience?

When I started dating my husband he had a lot of female friends. That didn't bother me because I did come to meet them, all but one that is. This particular one only came around when I wasn't there. She would call him and ask if I were there and then would say she'd call him back. Her birthday is Valentine's Day and she was pissed that he took me out rather than go out with her. She was a source of a lot of arguments. He just didn't see my point. Then, for his birthday we (a large group of us) were all going out. It also happened to be St. Patrick's Day. I orignally didn't think I was able to go since I couldn't get a babysitter. Then I was able to get one last minute. She didn't know this and when she showed up she was very surprised that I was there. I was very nice to her, offered her a glass of wine before we went out, and just tried talking to her. She kept shooting me down. We walked to the bar, she ordered one drink with her friend, and then they left within 20 minutes. My husband never heard from her again. I wonder why that is? After that night my husband agreed that I must have been right on and he never doubted my judgement again.





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