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This past weekend I ended my relationship with a guy I've been dating for 3 years. I wanted to share my story in the hopes it will help someone else.

This was our second go-round. The first time I stopped seeing him because he couldn't be faithful. He spent the next 5 (yes, 5) years trying to convince me to give him another chance. I did, because swore he knew better this time and "didn't realize what he had" the first time.

Well, big surprise, the same issue has been ongoing this time as well. He has cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend many times and I have actually caught him at it 3 times. He also started sleeping with another woman while I was in the hospital with a life-threatening illness. I forgave him and took him back each time after refusing to see him for several weeks because he begged, cried, etc. and I truly cared for him (dumb, dumb...).

Anyway, last weekend he pulled the same crud, lying to me to cancel out on seeing each other Saturday night so he could spend the night with his ex. This time, for some reason, was the last straw. I will not take him back this time. I'm done with him. He has texted me and instant messaged me and even had his niece, whom I'm close to, text and e-mail me. I have not responded and will not respond. I've had enough and will not give him any more chances. He will finally learn that if he hurts and degrades me, he will lose me. I don't believe that he will ever change because he did the exact same thing to his last 2 ex-girlfriends, but still, he has lost me for good.

Please, all you out there who have been cheated on and then had the cheater beg, cry, ask for forgiveness, threaten suicide, WHATEVER, a leopard doesn't change their spots. This guy continued to cheat on me because I allowed him to, because I kept taking him back and he became confident that he could do whatever he wanted and I'd always take him back like a dumb puppy with no self esteem. I don't like to think of myself as that kind of woman, and I was. I have been that woman and I'm ashamed.

Please, do not EVER allow anyone to treat you this way. It's not good for you, it's not worth it. Have enough respect and love for yourself to refuse to take this from anyone, no matter how much you think you "love" them.

I hope this helps someone to avoid the mistakes I've made.

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