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I am someone who got involved with a man who had a partner, but didn't know about it for the first few months. When I did get the truth out of him, he told me that their relationship was over, he was leaving, and that I was his choice. By then, I had feelings for him and decided to give him the benefit of the doubt; that he could possibly be telling me the truth. We both work in the same building, not in the same office.

Here is how he came into my life:

Back in September/06, this man who works in the same building as I do, approached me with a note wanting to get to know me. Apparently, he had been eyeing me for some time and was very attracted to me...he said from the first time he saw me. I responded by saying that I was seeing someone, but said that we could be friends. He said, "Lucky Guy, and that he doesn't give up easily." For a while after that we would run into each other and chat....he was still very interested in me. In November/06, he wrote me a letter and it was on my desk when I got to work. He told me how happy he was to see me and that I was the most GEORGEOUS PERSON, and that he hasn't felt so strongly towards someone in many years, and that he thinks of me often; and is happy seeing me if only by chance. He would always say, "Hello Beautiful, and Hello There."

Well, I have to say, he warmed my heart and I started to see him for lunch at the Food Court, and we would talk alot by phone. Nothing much materialized with that guy that I was seeing....we were more like friends.

About a year later, he chose to stay with his partner (Common-law wife....these marriages are legal in Canada after living with someone for [B]6 months to a year[/B]) for financial reasons (He is the one with the money, who didn't want to lose half of everything if he left). [B]I know it is lame, but he worried about that alot.[/B]

I live in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada, and they have been together at least 7 or 8 years. He bought a new house a little over a year ago, which is in HIS NAME only. He told me that he DID seek legal advice, BUT there was [B]no way[/B] around giving her half of everything that he had.

This man is 57 years old and has no kids, and told me that he wanted to be able to enjoy his retirement. Having to give up half of everything to her, was too high of a price to pay. I guess his property and investments mean so much to him, that he doesn't intend to give them up or take a partial loss for any woman.

He told me that he still loves me, and that he always will.

I am doing really well as far as that guy is concerned. There isn't alot of contact now. But I wanted to get your opinion on something.

As usual I am playing it cool around him, making it seem as though I am not paying too much attention to him.

Even when I walk by, knowing that he is there, and act as if I don't see him; I can see him watching me out of the corner of my eye.

I am not bothered that he isn't a part of my life anymore.

He still stares at me as though he is [B]STILL VERY INTERESTED[/B]. When we do get a chance to talk, our conversations are only for a few minutes.

When we spoke on last Friday, he asked me if I still had a "boyfriend". I said, "Yes". He responded by saying, [B]"THAT'S TERRIBLE."[/B] What do you think he meant by that? Do you think that on some level that he is jealous thinking of me with another guy, and he is just waiting to hear me say that "we" broke up, so that I might be willing to spend time with him again, even if it is on the side? No way will that ever happen again !!!

He also asked me if I was still living with my mother, and I said, "Yes". It is like it bothers him on some level to think of me possibly living with a guy.

What do you think all of this is about?

But I have to tell you that even if we only speak for a couple of minutes once a month, he manages to bring up my lovelife. He seems so curious about it.

Don't get me wrong, I am [B]NOT[/B] hung up on him. I just wanted to get a few good honest opinions/interpretations.

[B]I mean he chose to stay where he was and protect his investments, and his property; which is solely owned by him. Nothing is in her name, except for the phone.[/B]

I guess I feel that he shouldn't care about what I do now, and who I am
involved with.

I look forward to hearing from you soon with your interpretation of what he might have meant, and why he responded that way to me still having a "boyfriend".



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