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My boyfriend of 5 years subscribes to playboy,It really bothers me. He said they will be worth money one day. Why can't he stop them. It makes me feel insecure.:confused:
I hardly call Playboy magazine porn. It's all just airbrushed and fake plastic women in that magazine. I'd hardly start being insecure about that, Gwen. What's there to be insecure about? Some cheesy fake broad with fake boobs who will never even come close to looking like a real woman? Come on, seriously. They're all airbrushed, do you think real women have no zits anywhere on their body? Yeah maybe if they're aliens...

I agree that your bf's excuse about the magazines being worth money someday was really lame. He should have just been honest with you about it. Guys are weird when it comes to Playboy. It seems like it's some kind of status thing. The subscription is kind of expensive, and guys seem to collect them for some reason. Even my dad used to have a subscription when my sis and I were younger. Until we found them and I guess my mom yelled at him to get rid of them because she was totally weirded out that we found them.

I guess in my mind, true porn like the crap you find on the internet is totally different than Playboy, which is so fake and so overdone for effect that it's hard to even take it seriously. I still think it's silly to get insecure over those women, but maybe that's just me. I'm not even a thin person either, I'm a bigger girl. But even I don't get insecure over those girls. Have you ever actually looked at those pictures? Have you seen how fake and plastic they look? I guess that's why it's so funny to me. And guys who actually drool over that kind of thing are so ridiculous to me because they're fantasizing over something that isn't real. If it really bugs you though, you should tell him again. And if he doesn't listen, then ask yourself whether you want to just ignore the Playboy magazines or if you want to keep this bf. It's not that hard of a decision, really, but you'll have to decide what's more important to you, I guess.
I think you need to make sure he realizes that you feel insecure by this and see if he changes anything then. I understand how you feel, feeling that he is looking at those women and wishing he was with them...that's all fantasy and im sure you've looked at some men and thought, "wow he's hot" but you would never sacrifice your relationship over it. I think that if he can change his ways a little and make you feel more confident and secure then the magazines wont be such an issue
Just to play devil's advocate here, a lot of the guys who look at playboy don't actually wish they could be with those women. Guys are more visual and they just use those images to get themselves off. It's not about being with the girl in the picture, it rarely is. Because in the end, majority of guys are horribly insecure about themselves and they know that they couldn't get one of those magazine girls anyway. They know it. But they still like looking at them.

Which is why, I don't think you should get so upset about the magazine. I think you should try to just be analytical about this and realize it's not about wanting to be with any of those girls intimately. It's just about looking at them and that's it. I guess I just don't see why it's such a problem. Honestly, it's not like he'd even want to date one of those girls anyway. Most guys know that the more "hot" the woman, the more high maintenance and annoying she is. Whereas the more down-to-earth and Real type women are the ones who are relationship-worthy.

Your bf is with you because of a large number of reasons, only one of which is your looks. There's also your personality, how you make him feel, how compatible he feels you are with him, and a lot of other things. The girls in the magazine are just eye candy, nothing more.

I know what I'm trying to say but maybe i'm not being clear enough. I'm just telling you that if you really look at the situation, you have to try to understand what's really going on here. If he was on dating sites and flirting with girls right in front of you, then yes, absolutely break up with him. But if all he has is a subscription to playboy and you're upset, then I think you're overreacting. Not trying to be mean, but I really think you're overreacting. You have nothing to be insecure about because you're not competing with those girls, not even a little. You're completely separate from them and on a much higher level than them in his eyes. I'm sure of it.
[QUOTE=Tivo123;3725895]Just to play devil's advocate here, a lot of the guys who look at playboy don't actually wish they could be with those women. Guys are more visual and they just use those images to get themselves off. It's not about being with the girl in the picture, it rarely is. Because in the end, majority of guys are horribly insecure about themselves and they know that they couldn't get one of those magazine girls anyway. They know it. But they still like looking at them.

Which is why, I don't think you should get so upset about the magazine. I think you should try to just be analytical about this and realize it's not about wanting to be with any of those girls intimately. It's just about looking at them and that's it. I guess I just don't see why it's such a problem. Honestly, it's not like he'd even want to date one of those girls anyway. Most guys know that the more "hot" the woman, the more high maintenance and annoying she is. Whereas the more down-to-earth and Real type women are the ones who are relationship-worthy.

Your bf is with you because of a large number of reasons, only one of which is your looks. There's also your personality, how you make him feel, how compatible he feels you are with him, and a lot of other things. The girls in the magazine are just eye candy, nothing more.

I know what I'm trying to say but maybe i'm not being clear enough. I'm just telling you that if you really look at the situation, you have to try to understand what's really going on here. If he was on dating sites and flirting with girls right in front of you, then yes, absolutely break up with him. But if all he has is a subscription to playboy and you're upset, then I think you're overreacting. Not trying to be mean, but I really think you're overreacting. You have nothing to be insecure about because you're not competing with those girls, not even a little. You're completely separate from them and on a much higher level than them in his eyes. I'm sure of it.[/QUOTE]





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