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And so the plot thickens....

For those of you who saw my most recent post.. (Me looking at my boyfriend's e-mail).. After that we had a conversation in which he found out that I hung out with someone within the first few months that we were dating (but weren't exclusive). It was after the time that I looked at his text messages and found messages between him and other girls. I suppose I just wasn't sure if he was all that into me, and someone was courting me. So I went with it. I hung out with this guy maybe 2 times, and we ended up having sex. Having sex was not what I thought would happen or wanted to happen, but it did, and I regretted it. So my boyfriend found out about this. He asked so many detailed questions. This was last Monday or Tuesday. And on Wednesday it was his birthday and I sent him a message, and he thanked me. And he hasn't talked to me since. Almost a week now. I tried calling him maybe 2 or 3 times and texted him once. NOTHING. It is so frustrating. Is he done with me? Does he need time to think about the situation? Its not fair... :(
I'm sorry to say this, but if he is done with you that's a good thing dodedoo. Don't you see what he is doing now? He is taking this situation that just recently happened (you seeing emails from girls while you were exclusive) and turning it around on you and something you did when you were not exclusive. He is taking the blame off of him and putting it on you. You are on the defensive and worried about his feelings when in all reality what you did when you weren't exclusive does not matter.

I think this is his way of "punishing" you. He wants you to beg him back and appologize profusely (for something you shouldn't even have to appologize for btw) and basically accept the blame for everything he has done to this point. After all, you having the nerve to see another guy while not exclusive should make him have all these double standards! :rolleyes:

I wish you could see that you are so much better than this guy. He may have some wonderful qualities, but being a good boyfriend is NOT one of them. Don't you think you should just call it a loss and move on? Is he really that great when you look at him with an objective eye?
[QUOTE=happymom28;3712753]I'm sorry to say this, but if he is done with you that's a good thing dodedoo. Don't you see what he is doing now? He is taking this situation that just recently happened (you seeing emails from girls while you were exclusive) and turning it around on you and something you did when you were not exclusive. He is taking the blame off of him and putting it on you. You are on the defensive and worried about his feelings when in all reality what you did when you weren't exclusive does not matter.

I think this is his way of "punishing" you. He wants you to beg him back and appologize profusely (for something you shouldn't even have to appologize for btw) and basically accept the blame for everything he has done to this point. After all, you having the nerve to see another guy while not exclusive should make him have all these double standards! :rolleyes:

I wish you could see that you are so much better than this guy. He may have some wonderful qualities, but being a good boyfriend is NOT one of them. Don't you think you should just call it a loss and move on? Is he really that great when you look at him with an objective eye?[/QUOTE]

Honestly that was one of my ideas. That he is trying to punish me and make what I did into a huge deal. Which he has done by stopping communication. I can't believe he is such a coward though to just stop talking to me.





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