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Hi everybody. A few weeks ago I caught my girlfriend cheating on me. We broke up and I've spent the last few weeks trying to get my life back together, to get over her and to just take care of myself. However, I'm finding it difficult to move on because of the behavior I've been seeing in a lot of people lately. It would be one thing if it was just my girlfriend who cheated on me, because then I could say that what she did was completely wrong and the next person hopefully won't do that. But I've recently found out that my best friend's girlfriend cheated on him, my girl friend's boyfriend cheated on her, and a friend of mine made a move on my best friend's girlfriend over the summer while they were still together (and he had his own girlfriend).

Ok, I know I did a terrible job of explaining that, but it seems like infidelity is everywhere I look right now. I, myself, have made out with two girls in the past who had boyfriends at the time, and I hate myself for it. I am very disgusted with people right now, including myself. I am disgusted with human nature and temptation. I feel like people cannot be trusted, and I wonder how love could possibly survive in a world like this.

When my girlfriend cheated on me, it was a spontaneous thing that happened between her and a friend. She said that she had never done anything like that with anyone else, and it was something that just happened very quickly. It was the same story with my friends who were betrayed. I just hate that people can be so susceptible to something like that. I hate that they can make such unforgivable mistakes just because they have too much to drink or they have a moment of weakness. I hate that someone could knowingly and willingly sleep with a guy or a girl who has a boyfriend, interfering with the intimate bond that they share and destroying the love and the trust that they have for one another. It makes me absolutely sick.

And there's the major problem. I can't move on because I feel like anyone is capable of betraying me the same way that my girlfriend betrayed me. I wonder whether anyone can really be trusted to do the right thing anymore. If my girlfriend, who I knew inside and out, who I loved and trusted so deeply, was capable of doing something like that to me, it just seems like it could happen just as easily with any other girl in the world.

I am disappointed and disgusted with people right now. I hate everyone right now. Human nature seems to be a very ugly thing.
[QUOTE=plaxmax34;3735657]Hi everybody. A few weeks ago I caught my girlfriend cheating on me. We broke up and I've spent the last few weeks trying to get my life back together, to get over her and to just take care of myself. However, I'm finding it difficult to move on because of the behavior I've been seeing in a lot of people lately. It would be one thing if it was just my girlfriend who cheated on me, because then I could say that what she did was completely wrong and the next person hopefully won't do that. But I've recently found out that my best friend's girlfriend cheated on him, my girl friend's boyfriend cheated on her, and a friend of mine made a move on my best friend's girlfriend over the summer while they were still together (and he had his own girlfriend).

Ok, I know I did a terrible job of explaining that, but it seems like infidelity is everywhere I look right now. I, myself, have made out with two girls in the past who had boyfriends at the time, and I hate myself for it. I am very disgusted with people right now, including myself. I am disgusted with human nature and temptation. I feel like people cannot be trusted, and I wonder how love could possibly survive in a world like this.

When my girlfriend cheated on me, it was a spontaneous thing that happened between her and a friend. She said that she had never done anything like that with anyone else, and it was something that just happened very quickly. It was the same story with my friends who were betrayed. I just hate that people can be so susceptible to something like that. I hate that they can make such unforgivable mistakes just because they have too much to drink or they have a moment of weakness. I hate that someone could knowingly and willingly sleep with a guy or a girl who has a boyfriend, interfering with the intimate bond that they share and destroying the love and the trust that they have for one another. It makes me absolutely sick.

And there's the major problem. I can't move on because I feel like anyone is capable of betraying me the same way that my girlfriend betrayed me. I wonder whether anyone can really be trusted to do the right thing anymore. If my girlfriend, who I knew inside and out, who I loved and trusted so deeply, was capable of doing something like that to me, it just seems like it could happen just as easily with any other girl in the world.

I am disappointed and disgusted with people right now. I hate everyone right now. Human nature seems to be a very ugly thing.[/QUOTE]

Hey plax, how old are you?

You seem to be taking this really hard. The sad thing is, I totally agree with you. I've been cheated on in the past. I know friends who have. Its really sickening. It can make someone really down on relationships. In my case, it can also make you way TOO cautious in future relationships, so that you can end up ruining them by mistrusting a person when they have done nothing wrong. I suppose I am in the same boat as you. And I wonder if i'll ever be in a relationship where I can truly trust someone again. I suppose you can only hope for the best and know that while it happens frequently, everyone is not like that.





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