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Playing hard to get
Oct 16, 2008
I've actually never understood this concept... at all. But I'd like some advice in case I'm doing this all wrong!!! Sorry if this all sounds really lame and trivial, but I've not had a great deal of success with guys in general...

I met this guy about a month ago. He's lovely. He's taken me out for dinner a few times and we get on extremely well. At the beginning of the week he asked if I could come over last night. I said no because I had an early start today. I suggested Friday or Saturday night and he said that he was seeing some friends on Saturday, but could perhaps do Friday. Anyhow, yesterday evening he sent a text saying that his friends had cancelled, so would I still be free to come round. Now I really love being with this guy, so after a little bit of 'oh so I'm second choice?' stuff, I said I'd come round. His reply was 'you're so easy', which made me feel like I'd said the wrong thing. Then my mum (yes, of all people) said that I should have said that I'd made plans and couldn't go. Now I feel like perhaps I should have gone that way, but it didn't feel right to lie like that, plus I really did want to see him and had originally said I was free that night.

Help! Am I being too easy-going? And how on earth do I learn to play hard-to-get if it isn't in my nature? I find the whole thing incomprehensible. I like a guy, want to see him, I see him. The game-playing gene must have passed me by... :s
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I met this guy about a month ago. He's lovely. He's taken me out for dinner a few times and we get on extremely well.
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That's all you need for know after only meeting him a month ago.


[QUOTE=kiya;3763244]
At the beginning of the week he asked if I could come over last night. I said no because I had an early start today. I suggested Friday or Saturday night and he said that he was seeing some friends on Saturday, but could perhaps do Friday.
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You both communicated with each other. You suggested meeting on one of two days and he met one of them, Friday. He had a prior commitment with friends on Saturday before you even suggested getting together. What's the problem here? None that i see.

[QUOTE=kiya;3763244]
Anyhow, yesterday evening he sent a text saying that his friends had cancelled, so would I still be free to come round. Now I really love being with this guy, so after a little bit of 'oh so I'm second choice?' stuff, I said I'd come round. His reply was 'you're so easy', which made me feel like I'd said the wrong thing.
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Seems like you started flirting with him with the "oh so I'm second choice?" .... and he flirted back with "you're so easy" after you agreed to meet him.

Relax .... you didn't say anything wrong. Don't take it so seriously. Wait till you get married in a couple of weeks from now!!! :)


[QUOTE=kiya;3763244]
Then my mum (yes, of all people) said that I should have said that I'd made plans and couldn't go. Now I feel like perhaps I should have gone that way, but it didn't feel right to lie like that, plus I really did want to see him and had originally said I was free that night.
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I don't know the tone or the context of your conversation with your mom but this whole issue seems much to do about nothing. You are only talking about getting together for one day. You say you ike the guy..... then go see him. It's that simple Frankie! :)

So. go out or go see him on Saturday... and if it doesn't work out..... well.....



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