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I truly need some advice and/or help in understanding this issue.

The two of us have been together for nearly a year and live together. Granted, we had fights, just like any couple.. But lately has been a bit increasingly strange.

1.) We got into a discussion which lead on to him saying some hurtful things... And then, with what he said in mind, I asked him if he hated me and he said he didn't know. That was rather shocking. I ended up crying and later on he told me not to, and that he loved me.

2.) LAST NIGHT: We ended up looking at some pet websites together, mentioning that I wouldn't be so lonely if I had one to care for... Which somehow lead on to a MUCH bigger issue. Saying that I don't know life well and telling me I should live on my own to see things for myself. I dearly love him, so I ended up getting teary eyed. I asked him if he no longer wanted to be with me, and he gave me a "so-so" answer. A bit after, he told me not to cry again, he did love me, and wants to stay together. Even though he suggested in a criticizing tone for me to move, he later said he would be very lonely if so.

-BUT- this is where it ultimately confuses me. We went to bed for the night, and right before we started falling asleep, he asked me about jealousy and if I had any. I told him that of course I can get slightly jealous.. Which led to him quickly initiating- well you know.

I'm very confused as to what this all means. Whenever we have an issue, he seems to put me down a bit (Like I can't do this- or I don't understand), and then makes me feel like the relationship is over. But always after a bit of silence and me breaking down, he tells me he loves me. And then it ends. And it seems that he loves that I can feel a little jealous.

All of these (and other previous ones) are never brought up again, and he acts like it never happened. He quickly goes from being angry towards me straight into hugging me and telling me he loves me.

Anything to help me understand this is greatly appreciated!! Thank you for your time, and I apologize that the post is rather lengthy.

Thank you!

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