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I haven't done this before, but at this point I'm willing to try anything. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 6 years, we have no kids together but I have 3 and he has 2 who all live with us. We have all lived as a family for about 4 years now. A few weeks ago, he started acting kind of funny; then one night I asked him, "are you getting ready to break up with me?" (of course I asked this, looking for reassurance, yes it's immature) his reply was "yes, and that he has been thinking about it for some time, we have been growing apart" Obviously I cried, and the next day we didn't speak. Then Saturday (the conversation happened on Thursday night), he went back to acting like we were a normal couple, I didn't say anything because I want to be with him...I want us to be a family. I brought it up this past Friday (one week later) and told him it wasn't fair, and that he was playing with my emotions. He said it wasn't fair to him, because everytime he thinks about breaking up with me, I turn into the girlfriend that he wants?

Problem #2-his ex wife...she has been a thorn in my side since we started dating, I'm not sure if it's jealousy or what. She has been a lunatic since day one, to the point that her kids were taken away from her and placed with my SO. (hence they have been living with us for the past 4 years), she lived out of town until about a year ago, so we only dealt with her every other weekend and whenever she decided to call. She left her loser boyfriend and got a new one near us, moved in with him and now lives 5 minutes away. So now, magically he thinks she is capable of taking care of his kids. He lets them go there every weekend and at least one night through the week, that wouldn't be a problem if she had changed but we found out recently that she is back to seeing the loser boyfriend, but still living with the new one-she was also busted for misdemeanor drug abuse merely 3 months ago. But he does nothing.

This morning before I left for work I get a call from his oldest son, saying I need my dad, I asked what's wrong and he said my mom's tire blew...remember I told you she now has 2 boyfriends, but mine is a mechanic and it is before 7 a.m. but I take him the phone because his kids are in the car. But while I'm talking to his son, she is in the back ground saying, "I need your dad!!!" raising her voice to the point the son told her to shut up...my blood is boiling at this point. I wake him up and he talks to me for a few minutes, I tell him what she was saying.

For some reason, I told him as I was leaving for work and he was going to pick up the boys, "Do not bring her back here." and he said, "like I would." I called him about an hour after I went to work and asked him how it went and he said that her boyfriend showed up at the same time he did. Problem solved....or so I thought.

When I came home for lunch, my oldest daughter was home sick, and told me "Lori was here this morning" and I said "what do you mean she was here?" and she said, "when I woke up this morning she was sitting on the couch." I ask her what time she says 7:05which is a mere 10 minutes from the time he left to go pick up the boys. so I call and ask him and he says no, she was there picking up the oldest son for his doctor's appt. (which is why they were with her to begin with). I call a friend of mine, and she says, "call her and pretend that you are just making sure the son got through his MRI ok" so I did, and I slipped it in there about her tire, and whether her boyfriend picked her up here, and she said yes. I call him back and confront him about lying to me, and he says "fine me and my kids will be out this weekend"....

Am I crazy???????????

I know I've babbled and there is more to it than this, but I just don't know what to do anymore. Needless to say today is my birthday and now it sucks...





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