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[QUOTE=pendulum;3821644]Roseq, I would follow the part of me who is tempted. Just for once. LOL It's like drinking good wine, maybe. Don't overdo it, or you'll have a hangover. Just try to have some fun, even if it doesn't include any intimacy. I may be wrong, but I guess you are sitting in the driver's seat on this one, if you see what I mean.[/QUOTE]



LOL Pendulum I'm surprised at your answer! You are a risktaker, huh? There are a couple things that may complicate it though......
1) I doubt if there would NOT be intimacy......if I get together with this guy there is chemistry, there are sparks.....there WOULD be intimacy.....

now is that what I really want? I'm not sure......because

2) I have a friend/neighbor that I've been casually seeing for a few months. When Guitar slinger first came into the picture my friend was over one day when he called and I kicked my friend out and told him he had to leave because I met this guy and I kinda like him and I have to call him back. My friend was a little surprised that I sent him home, but I thought he'd understand, seeing my excitement to talk to guitar slinger. I asked him if his feelings were hurt and he said no. A few days later I talked to my friend/neighbor again and said are you sure I didn't hurt your feelings. Then he told me his feelings were hurt a little bit, he thought we were seeing where things were going with us. I said yeah so did I but I didn't really know if you liked me in that WAY, since it was kinda developing as a friendship. But during this time I felt like my friend/neighbor was sending me mixed signals. Sometimes he didn't return calls for a few days. One time kinda early into our relationship I said I wanted to ask him something (about a light-bulb, but he didn't know it was about a light bulb). He said ok, but don't ask the question if you don't want to hear the answer. Thats one of his favorite lines. I was surprised, I said don't worry I'm not asking you for a committment. He said, good cuz you're not gonna get one. When I asked him how he felt about me, he said he likes me, he wasn't in a hurry and is open to all possibilities with me. So after the couple weeks that guitar slinger ran its course, my friend was over a couple Saturdays in a row, so he knew something was up, but didn't know how to ask.....so he said, what happened to mister wonderful? I said, well he wasn't that wonderful after all, and my friend sympathyzed with me and said he was probably just out to get in your pants, etc. He said you didn't do anything wrong, you just trusted someone that they were being honest with you,etc. His reaction made me feel better, he seemed like he really cared and felt bad that my feelings were hurt by guitar slinger. I told him I was sorry I hurt his feelings, that I really thought that with our relationship that we were on a "don't ask, don't tell" basis because of those comments he made earlier about, don't ask the question, etc....good, you're not getting a committment, etc. He of course never remembered saying "good cuz you're not gonna get one", but he didn't deny that it was a possibility that he said that. He's also told me don't take him seriously unless he says he's serious because he jokes a lot, and uses sarcasm a lot. He also told me that he said he only dates one woman at a time, so how much clearer could he be? I was a little surprised because I didn't know what we were doing was officially "dating". I guess it was going a little slower than I expected so I thought maybe we were just hanging out as friends with a little affection, etc. We haven't slept together, we've kissed, touched, cuddled, been affectionate, stuff like that but never took it all the way, and sometimes that was due to timing.......the couple times we probably would have, I was on my period (sorry if too much info) LOL
So I feel like I put my friend/neighbor on the back burner once for this guy and luckily he understood, but I don't know if he would understand if I did it again. I also don't know what I would have to gain by doing it again. If I gave guitar slinger another chance, I believe that would probably shut the door with my neighbor, and I truly like my neighbor as a good friend and possibly a boyfriend, but there are some things that make me wonder if he's really BF material. I do enjoy his company, we laugh a lot, we communicate well, we have fun. I really don't think guitar slinger deserves another chance. I think if his old GF told him again she can't live without him he'd be right there again.......I don't want to be his back-up.......
If my friend/neighbor wasn't in the picture, maybe.....but even then, since guitar slinger already had his chance and blew it, I'm not sure he's worthy of a 2nd chance......
so pendulum with that new info, do you still think I should give into temptation?





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